Comments on: De Profundis

By: The Girl in a Bowl |

The Girl in a Bowl | — Mon, 23 Jul 2018 02:20:14 +0000

[…] just to defend myself and my friend. It doesn’t quite fit here but nonetheless I will quote Oscar Wilde on Dickens. “One must have a heart of stone to read the death of little Nell without […]

By: Linda Lowry

Linda Lowry — Thu, 25 Apr 2013 01:21:32 +0000

Hello, Sister…..I too am a bit salty – to say the least. My heart was broken the day God took my son, Mikey, at age 15 away. I struggle on a daily basis – for four years now – to find a glimpse of a silver lining to this struggle. A bereaved parent is forever a bereaved parent. My condolences to you….and I hope that someday we get at least a glimpse. Sending love to you my fellow sister angel mom……Lynn

By: Andra

Andra — Sat, 17 Nov 2012 07:42:04 +0000

Oh Sister and Hammie
I feel your grief.
That’s all I can tell you.
I feel your grief.
Love………..

By: Kellie

Kellie — Sat, 17 Nov 2012 01:30:35 +0000

I think Suspended has hit it.
Parents love differently. I know mine would have seen my passing as a blip on the radar, and possibly a relief-they didnt have to worry about me, or explain why I am so different anymore.

It makes me sad for both of us-we both deserved better, different outcomes.

Hang in there, I am trying to also. And the lat 6 months havent been easy.

We deserve better things coming!!!

xxx

By: Hammie

Hammie — Fri, 16 Nov 2012 00:36:49 +0000

My sister died by suicide in September. Her twin, me and my older sister are all still reeling. Life feels perilous. I watch my children while they sleep, I worry if my husband is late & doesn’t text, I dread the call to my cellphone in the middle of the night. I switch it off now. Give me the news in the daylight when I can cope.
Both my parents are cunts, they do not deserve anyone’s condolences. it is us 3, her husband and her son I worry about. I’m sad for her, she meant to do it. I’m also angry that she couldn’t get perspective. Then I’m sad and sorry again.

What is getting me through Sister Is nurturing. Doing everything I can to support and help my children, my little family. Work has been put aside as I focus on being a Mum and a better wife. I’m a very busy Mum, as you know; but even if it is challenging, it is satisfying to know I’m doing everything I can.

Stay here with us. xx

By: Deni

Deni — Thu, 15 Nov 2012 16:34:41 +0000

I agree with ali. I think of you every day. Your grief at losing Max and my parents grief at losing their son exist on this strange plain where it’s always “what if” and always heartbreaking. Having said that; you are amazing. You are kind and thoughtful, and honest and generous and funny and smart. Please don’t leave me with more “what ifs.”
xoxoxoxoxoxo,
me

By: Sister Wolf

Sister Wolf — Thu, 15 Nov 2012 09:49:57 +0000

Sally – Yes, that’s true – I’ll try to keep this in mind.

EricaE – Being honest just comes naturally to me. Everything else is a struggle.

Debbie – Thank you sweetie, xo

dana – xoxo back to you!

ali – I’m glad you like the photo – I could stare at it forever. I am so touched that you think of me. It is a precious gift that I feel I don’t desreve.

thriftshoplawyer – Thank you for the encouragement, your kindness makes me want to try harder. xo

By: thriftstorelawyer

thriftstorelawyer — Thu, 15 Nov 2012 03:38:29 +0000

Please, please stay with us. That is all.

By: ali

ali — Thu, 15 Nov 2012 02:38:43 +0000

I hate it when people say “okay then” in response to something, be it their own monologue or other.

The photo is beautiful.

I think about you almost every day at some point, SO YOU MUST EXIST?

I don’t want to think about a world in which you do not exist.

I’ve been reading a lot of Frank Bidart lately. He says a crazy person is a person who does not harbor guilt.

He says crazy people only like people who don’t contradict them.

I think this makes you vibrantly alive and pathologically sane. (According to Frank Bidart)

Sending good thoughts your way.
xo
Ali

By: dana

dana — Thu, 15 Nov 2012 02:27:42 +0000

The veil of before and after is so hard to bear. I am heartbroken that this veil surrounds you. I’ve heard one never gets over certain losses, and that actually seems appropriate, or somehow better, than getting over a devastating death. Your clarity and honesty shine, in spite of — because of — it all. xoxoxo