Comments on: Death by Scarf

By: Odile Lee

Odile Lee — Sun, 21 Sep 2014 02:24:06 +0000

“Don’t use a scarf. Don’t leave us here without you.”
Lovely and kind.
If anyone comes here, later- Ive been here to say, Im a abuse survivor from undiagnosed ADHD. I was so messed up at one point, I couldn’t read, understand words or leave the house. No one cared, and I nearly died.
Its been a long time since then, it was very very VERY hard. All the way. But now I have medication * 2 years- like glasses, for my brain!!!_ and a best friend, who suffered from bipolar, and was lonely ever, until he met me.
Now, Im cooking with gas! Ive someone to adore me( in whatever version we choose) until we die, and you know, its never too late to have a happy childhood.
Mines got lots of tutus!!!
love to you all xxoo

By: Eek

Eek — Wed, 04 Jun 2014 23:59:38 +0000

This really haunted me too. She must have been so desperate and alone that morning. No one will convince me that Mick Jagger isn’t in large part a cause.

By: Debi

Debi — Fri, 25 Apr 2014 20:42:13 +0000

Kahlua, I also thought that about L’Wren Scott. If she could kill herself with all those resources, all her money (I don’t care her business was floundering–she was still better off than most people) what chance do regular people have who are depressed? BUT think about all the people who have it really bad in the world. People are suffering from starvation and sickness and torture and they continue to fight. Think of the people who endured the Holocaust. They were gulping for air, literally, fighting with everything they had to live.

My cousin committed suicide by hanging last year. It was related to his alcohol addiction. No one had any idea he had any suicidal thoughts. Around midnight he made his mother a cup of tea, told her he loved her, and went outside to smoke a cigarette in the garage. They found him in the morning. I wish people would at least give us a chance to help them. If you feel like killing yourself, please tell someone. And not just here, on the Internet. In real life.

By: D.R.

D.R. — Sun, 23 Mar 2014 16:25:09 +0000

Harm, I hope you’ll believe me that you won’t always feel this way. Sister is way more articulate than I….please listen to her and believe that people do care.

By: Kellie

Kellie — Sat, 22 Mar 2014 01:14:57 +0000

Please-we all have to hang in there together!!!
Its hard, some days are terrible. But at least it is Spring, and there is fresh air to be had.
Which sounds simplistic, but some sunshine and fresh air will clear my head and make things seem less awful overall.

Poor L’wren had a bad combination of terrible things that all came together at once. It was just too many things to take.
Cheating bf who didnt care if she knew about it, then he left town for a tour where he would have more access to cheating.
Company that was just about to close due to financial issues.
And shame and guilt.
I would imagine the shame and guilt were the ones that really finished her off.
That tends to be the case. The things we concoct in our heads are always much worse than what the reality would be, if our dark secrets came into the light.

The shame and guilt I have are my guiding lights. They shouldnt be.

By: Sister Wolf

Sister Wolf — Sat, 22 Mar 2014 00:12:58 +0000

Kahlua – YES, go to see your gp, I’m sure she knows enough about depression and anxiety to prescribe something for you. Some meds treat both conditions. I think lots of adults self-harm in some way, and it shouldn’t be cause for shame. One day at a time is great! That’s all you have to do.

32 is so young: I have said that I didn’t grow up til I was 33, and in many ways that is really true.

You have a a good brain that is making trouble for you. I believe meds will help you get a clearer perspective. The black hole will recede.

Remember that I need you to stick around!

By: annemarie

annemarie — Fri, 21 Mar 2014 16:43:16 +0000

If only people could remember that it’s our vulnerability and need for love that binds us all together as humans.

By: kahlua

kahlua — Fri, 21 Mar 2014 11:08:02 +0000

thank you all. Sister, your words are much appreciated. DJ – I never thought of going to the er/a&e (here in uk). unfort my local one is closed due to budget cuts (!!) but I have been considering seeing my gp about this, so I might just need to take the step forward. the Scott thing – i guess I saw it in the other way – if she, with all her resources, success and friends around her couldn’t pull through, what chance do I have? but i guess she had her hidden demons too.

i started self harming again, after 5 years, having thought i put it behind me. it was disappointing to have reverted back to that as i thought i had moved beyond it. it is a pressure valve i guess, but i worry that it may reach a point where it is not enough. it is only supposed to be kids on tumblr who cut but i am nearly 32. it is embarrassing in a way. i am a writer and ironically I am supposed to be writing a self-help manual on confidence and success for a client. i am just trying to take one day at a time – give myself a start, middle and end, and not think too much about this black hole in my head. it is just really hard.

By: Sister Wolf

Sister Wolf — Fri, 21 Mar 2014 05:53:22 +0000

DJ – Thank you for the good advice and for your own big heart xoxo

Arle – Thank you so much for taking the time to write. It is great to hear about your sons. What a huge victory for each of them! Hugging you back, xoxo

By: Arle

Arle — Fri, 21 Mar 2014 03:06:26 +0000

Sister, you are a beautiful soul. Your grief and sadness have touched so many people. I found your blog a while back and read all your older posts to better understand your story. I have two children who were addicted to heroin. Both clean now, one celebrating 10 yrs of sobriety. I share our past struggles with colleagues and friends because I hope I can help someone struggling with their child’s addiction. Our painful experiences can help others and I’ve wanted to reach out to you with a virtual hug for quite some time.
Today’s post inspired me to reach out NOW and not wait.
To your readers struggling with depression, addiction, or feelings of suicide – please ask for help. There are kind people everywhere who can help you. Tomorrow will be better.
Sending love and healing thoughts,
Arle