Could we take all the people who need Death Cafes, and who “journal,” and otherwise use nouns as verbs, (that they were “gifted” by popular idiot culture), and send them to Pluto?

So very true!! Haha!

betty – Right??

Tom Isenberg – I once worked in a used-book store and someone kept putting ‘Death in Venice’ next to the stuff by Kubler-Ross.

ChrissyB – I am able to tolerate dissent, unlike the Death Cafe facebook page, which blocked me when I asked some questions.

Dj – Thank you.

Bevitron – If I had to join a ‘social franchise’ cafe in order to have a thoughtful discussion, I’d be much crazier than I am, I know that much!

Too risky. Not for me.

When my mum died a few months ago I realised that although I knew a lot about the stages and process of birth I knew nothing about the process of dying. What are the stages of dying, if their are any? How do I figure out a way to die with grace at the end of my life? Is their a ‘letting go’ in dying as there is in going to sleep (there seemed to be for my mum who was terminally ill and said she was ready, but couldn’t quite ‘let go’)?

Unlike the Victorians who faced into death every day, we don’t know much about it because as a society we avoid talking about it. Who can you talk about your questions about death with? Generally not many people, if anyone. The purpose of the death cafes is not to glamorise, rather allow a space for discussion. I don’t glamorise food irradiation, but I discuss it with others in order to understand different perspectives, to learn what I can about the issue, and to formulate my own ideas. That is the purpose of the death cafes. Hope you don’t mind me clarifying. BTW I’m not affiliated with death cafes, just found them a useful resource.