Comments on: Fear of Old Ladies

By: me again

me again — Wed, 09 Oct 2013 20:33:51 +0000

It’s not you. It’s not necessarily the old ladyness. They just look weird. Period. No wonder you don’t like something about their look.

By: tick tock

tick tock — Thu, 05 Sep 2013 15:09:20 +0000

@Emma yes! I lived down under and the local women and Europeans wear no make up and as a 20something I actually appreciated that. But…then the older ones, like all the moms who decided to have kids at forty two, need some damn sunscreen and lip balm. I’m sorry make up and taking care of yourself are two different things. One lady was so old and dyed her hair brown cause she had a three year old. Gawd she was a smug mean bitch and thought she was so hip and natural and a ‘cool’ mom…so then don’t dye your hair, Carol!

My mother has like 2 grey hairs she dyes and soft skin. She is older than her friends but looks 10 years younger and she still complains! She would look so much better if she just naturally let things happen and let me style her. I am Black so I just doubt that I’ll have the kinds of worries White women do…sorry. I was born with eyebags though, ugh. I want my dreads to be long and grey and wear velvety shawls and leather boots.

By: Dj

Dj — Sun, 01 Sep 2013 00:29:48 +0000

Forgot. Diane Keaton, Susan Sarandon,Jeanne Moreau,

By: Dj

Dj — Fri, 30 Aug 2013 01:20:28 +0000

Happy birthday! 60 is the new 60! You are fabulous…
Here are my thoughts, I will be 60 in feb…first, holly hunters long long hair is not attractive in the least and hasn’t been for years It’s too much hair for her. I think waist length hair on middle aged women is lazy and looks odd. Dying hair? When I was about 10 I saw an article about Liz Taylor, there was a life size photo of her looking straight into the camera, hair tosseled, and lots of silver hairs gleaming throughout. Gorgeous. Ever since, when i see silver hairs popping up i think of that photo. I am very lucky that at nearly 60 I have very little silver ( I will not say grey!) and what I have I love! My hair is very dark, and I think I could get away with dying it the same color but don’t need it. My mother in law dyed her hair black until she was in her late 80s and it was horribly jarring! To me to stay youthful doesn’t mean plumping up, dying or dressing like a slut. It means being chic both mentally and physically, staying young at heart, watching your weight, sleep, staying current in fashion without going overboard. Also, you either have sex appeal or you don’t. I had an aunt who at 86, after getting a facelift 20 years before, was still like catnip to men. I think it was that she was youthful and kept herself chic.. I looked like a schlump next to her! Keep going girls, Do not succumb to the m words — Meemaw or matronly. Look at Lauren Hutton…also a great looking black leather jacket will go a long way in the chic attitude dept…forgive me for rambling, I’m almost 60….

By: Brandyjojo

Brandyjojo — Sun, 25 Aug 2013 23:12:18 +0000

I turned 60 in June, so I feel your pain. A year ago, I said ” fuck it” and quit tinting my hair. I am a brunette and have lots of grey. The thing that always concerned me was how your skin tone changes to go with your greying hair. Jane Campion looks amazing with her hair, but Holly Hunter looks a little sallow because that isn’t her natural hair color. I think, as we age, we really have to watch the color we tint our hair, it looks bad when a woman who is older dyes her hair to match her hair color of her youth.
You are beautiful and look great, petite with your long, gorgeous hair. Fuck being 60, I figured I’ve been 60 for a year, if I were Chinese, so I just head on and do my thing.

By: D.R.

D.R. — Fri, 23 Aug 2013 11:45:47 +0000

“It is the eye of other people that ruin us.” Ben Franklin

By: Kellie

Kellie — Fri, 23 Aug 2013 03:59:50 +0000

As i head towards 50, i am trying to find role models of what 50 is, and looks like, and can be.

Long gray hair looks witchy, and ridiculous to me. You also cant decide with long hair to let it just go gray, and have a stripe where your color ended and the gray started. Thats just tacky, and screams that you just dont care.
I want to care. I want to do what i can to stay youthful looking. I am not a very thin person, so that solves some of the skin sagging/crepey/flat issues for the time being. I put my makeup on every day. I dont want to see me looking like shit-why would i subject others to me looking like shit?
Self care is different than total indulgence.
Its all maintence baby. Just like the car needs gas and oil, i need lotion and lip balm!
Thank you for being a great image of 60!!!

By: Cricket9

Cricket9 — Fri, 23 Aug 2013 02:05:28 +0000

Have short hair, silver at the front, darker at the back, for about 4 years now and love it. At some point dyed hair, especially dark auburn shades which for some reason abound, starts to look very obviously fake, and sort of desperate; I couldn’t be bothered with the freaking dye anymore and I really look and feel better. IMO, both Jane and Holly look good and could look great with some makeup and different clothes. I live now in a small town in South America, where we have a lot of North-American expats. Expat women fall roughly in three categories: slim, fit, good shortcut, some makeup, often gray hair; overweight, huge around the middle, dowager hump, tent-like clothes, hair – who cares, they just look OLD; and fake blonds with extensions, duck lips, heavy makeup and flimsy camisoles (with no bra) as outerwear – aaargh. Do not develop a dowager hump, ladies, and don’t get old lady haircuts (short but tightly permed, yes they still exist), and you’ll be fine.

By: Bevitron

Bevitron — Thu, 22 Aug 2013 21:28:17 +0000

It’s the length. I see woman of all ages around here with salt & peppper, gray, silver, or solid white hair that’s got some kind of style or shape to it, be it super-short or mid-to shoulderish-length, and they look fabulous. No doubt, the long gray look has deeply embedded “witch” into our notions of what defines women.

I have to laugh because my natural color is med. blonde, and with my current approx. 40% gray, every day someone asks me where I got such an expert natural-looking streak job. HAH! Another 25% and I’ll just be old crone yellow-gray, I guess.

I think your long black is absolutely perfect for you. Don’t change it.

By: Hope

Hope — Thu, 22 Aug 2013 07:20:46 +0000

I grew up in New England, where Yankee women let their hair grow gray. My mom’s hair is gray without a touch of yellow, and I think it’s beautiful. I can’t imagine her dyeing her hair now. It would look weird.

I moved to L.A. at 18 for college, and stayed for 22 years. And I noticed, upon going home to Boston for holidays, that nobody in L.A. has gray hair. Nobody! So of course it’s going to look strange to someone who never sees it. It’s just not *done* in L.A.

I moved back to Boston six months ago, and now I am surrounded by women with gray hair again. I find it comforting. There’s that great Yankee lack of narcissism and lack of fear of aging, combined with an utter pragmatism – nobody’s going to sit every month and spend the money and time on a beauty ritual like dying their hair. It feels like the world is again stratified into age classes, and I can identify who my elders are.

That said, after 22 years in Los Angeles, I myself have every cream, gadget and plastic surgeon’s name on direct dial. So L.A. won out…

SisterWolf, you were just meant to have that long, beautiful dark hair. I can’t imagine you any other way. I think you should keep it forever. It’s stunning.