Comments on: First World Problems

By: kate

kate — Thu, 04 Feb 2016 16:18:46 +0000

I’m sure in Tibet many families are indeed “used to” losing children, but I would not assume that all Tibetan mothers don’t go through the same grief a first world mother goes through losing a child. I’m sure the guru is extremely wise, but another thing I’m sure of is, he isn’t a mother.
I’ve been thinking about this ever since you posted it, my comment is late because… I’ve been thinking about it.

By: Aly

Aly — Sun, 10 Jan 2016 04:06:48 +0000

“If you recall, I am a gay man in a woman’s body.” Made me laugh out loud. You have some of the best writing on the internet. As a mom, I know there is nothing I could ever say that would make anything any better for you about your kids. I like Buddhism but even hearing that Tibetan people lose children often would have just made me even sadder. I would give you a big hug if I could, just don’t look at my shoes- I shop at Target!

By: Sister Wolf

Sister Wolf — Thu, 07 Jan 2016 05:24:29 +0000

DJ – SHIT! I hope you have access to the best possible medical advice and treatment. Fuck. Yes, be mean whenever you want to, be awful! I love you back and offer all my atheist blessings. Please keep me posted.

By: Dj

Dj — Thu, 07 Jan 2016 04:42:40 +0000

Ok. Here we go…stop beating yourself up and über analyzing what you should or should not feel. You are a mother, your child died, there is a hole that needs filling. If it’s funky shoes, fine. If it’s a support group fine. If it’s naps (my favorite respite )… You do not need to feel apologetic, guilty or out of sinc. Fuck all the deep mum bo jumbo. Buy your fun stuff if it doesn’t create a financial problem. So what. Make yourself happy any way you can. Smoke a joint, by ten lipsticks. You’ve earned it. That guru sounds like a self righteous prick. I will be 62, just found out I have early lung cancer and have decided I can be mean as hell if I want. Get out of my way assholes. The forces have been released. Get tough, do what makes you happy. We love you…..

By: ali

ali — Sun, 03 Jan 2016 22:04:48 +0000

for some reason I’ve been having trouble accessing your blog for the past month. I can relate to this post in the sense that I also attempt to assuage my grief by filling a black hole with material items. Tiger material items foremost, these days.

I had the worst christmas ever because I decided to spend it with my vocationally republican family (look up ALEC CEO Lisa Nelson for reference) JUST TO SEE if I could handle it. Conversations ranged from the overtly racist to mockery of my history with sexual assault. My aunt (Lisa Nelson) compared me to ISIS because I told her to stop saying the n word. My uncle called me a spoiled brat at dinner in front of our entire family and then started laughing. I survived but I’ve been very depressed since. Had a nervous breakdown on New Years which ended with me covered in blood because I attempted to destroy a glass framed painting.

Funny- I thought to google search your blog (instead of typing in the address as I normally do which for some reason hasn’t been working for me?) because I was about to buy these shoes. Have had intense anxiety since New Years and buying the shoes is a kneejerk fix for me.

Should I buy them? It seems useless. I want them but I know they won’t really make me feel better. I should be saving money for my trip to Italy. Thinking about my upcoming trip to Italy doesn’t even make me feel better.

Fuck family.

By: Sister Wolf

Sister Wolf — Tue, 22 Dec 2015 20:10:53 +0000

Dana -Stop it! Fine, I will hang on if you will. Damn you.

By: Dana

Dana — Tue, 22 Dec 2015 19:46:51 +0000

Home sick today. Maybe it’s sympathetic chemo for my husband. The oldest is home sick too. My knees hurt but whether that’s sick, 47, or sympathy chemo I have no idea.

I’ve often wondered what I’ll do once the kids no longer need me. Most likely I’ll go back to being the same self absorbed asshole I was before I had kids. My most recent thought on how to end it when that time comes is to wander around with a gun and shoot blanks at the police so they’ll shoot me.

Wow that is not helpful. You are wonderful though. Take care of yourself. Everyone tells me that. I wonder what it means. Does it mean reading the phone and buying shoes? If so, I’m really doing a good job of taking care of myself. Xoxoxo

By: Sister Wolf

Sister Wolf — Thu, 17 Dec 2015 10:10:34 +0000

Jody – xo

Helen – Thank you so much Helen, that’s great to hear. Thanks for taking the time to write!

By: Helen

Helen — Wed, 16 Dec 2015 13:20:44 +0000

I have been reading your blog for many, many years – since 2008 at least. I love you. Sending you all the good and loving thoughts I can muster up. Your writing has gotten me through a lot too. Think of you often. Love.

By: jody

jody — Tue, 15 Dec 2015 18:27:24 +0000

wow, that’s brutal honesty from the guru…and yes, almost chastising you. but you are entitled to grieve….sending smiles your way…..