Comments on: Hate Your Legs? https://godammit.com/hate-your-legs/ And I'm getting madder. Sun, 06 Jul 2014 06:57:57 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.5.2 By: Cole https://godammit.com/hate-your-legs/comment-page-1/#comment-2388003 Sun, 06 Jul 2014 06:57:57 +0000 http://www.godammit.com/?p=10192#comment-2388003 She’s also probably like 6 feet tall, that’s why they look even more exaggerated.

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By: Dj https://godammit.com/hate-your-legs/comment-page-1/#comment-2385475 Sun, 27 Apr 2014 19:29:09 +0000 http://www.godammit.com/?p=10192#comment-2385475 Miss grass, I am picturing the way you describe yourself and think you are probably very hard on yourself…yes, all kinds of beautification tweaking can be expensive. Few can afford total makeovers and most of the time they look unnaturally freakish. You have a unique look, just enhance it! Fashion from two of my favorite stores, Salvation Army and goodwill, can be a start. Create yourself. And then recreate again. Go to target or another store that has a big drugstore section and look at all the products offered for various needs and just try them. I don’t mean to sound superficial, but get out there and be unique. Be the girl who is sleek and stunning. Don’t hide yourself. Be bold. Show all those meaty, booty heavy, fake nail, fake boob, fake hair creatures who’s boss.

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By: Janet https://godammit.com/hate-your-legs/comment-page-1/#comment-2385245 Thu, 17 Apr 2014 14:59:29 +0000 http://www.godammit.com/?p=10192#comment-2385245 As the mom of a 12 year old daughter who’s strong and fit and (so far) seems unconcerned with her weight, I try very hard to avoid criticizing my own body or talking about weight or diets at all. In a culture saturated with talk about women’s bodies, I hope she can remain blissfully unaware of the obsession with “thigh gap” for as long as possible.

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By: Sister Wolf https://godammit.com/hate-your-legs/comment-page-1/#comment-2385181 Wed, 16 Apr 2014 01:22:14 +0000 http://www.godammit.com/?p=10192#comment-2385181 grass – This makes me sad. And angry on your behalf. You are lovable as you are. So am I and so are all women or all sizes, color, weight etc. Our culture has fucked us up so badly, through advertising. Hairy women are considered beautiful in some cultures, but ours is particularly averse to hairiness. Fuck it. Go out and socialize as much as you can or join a group on meetup.com. You deserve a man to appreciate you. xoxo

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By: grass is not greener https://godammit.com/hate-your-legs/comment-page-1/#comment-2385178 Wed, 16 Apr 2014 00:26:10 +0000 http://www.godammit.com/?p=10192#comment-2385178 I am Black and very skinny. My legs look like that except hairy with tiny, tiny spots of vitaligo (my parents have bigger spots). Try being Black in a White world AND skinny in a Black world. You don’t belong anywhere, no man of any colour wants you and people judge you from all angles. They cannot imagine how a Black woman could be thin…people have asked if my mother was malnourished and if she was a teen mom, etc. People say the obvious that I have an ED which I don’t…just broke. I am the kind of person where my looks are *almost* pretty but I’m still just ugly enough to be up for constant debate…to my face or within earshot. White people might envy how thin I am but my skin and hair are considered undesirable…people have said shit to my face I am not just assuming. Black guys want a meaty light skinned woman. Most guys want things to jiggle during sex so all this dying to be thin is bull. Meaty girls know they are number one. Shitting on thin women who are usually very flat chested is not nice. Saying real women have curves makes A cup women feel like shit. We already know nobody wants us. All the guys I see have a girl with some jiggle. At least you have a husband who obviously loves you. I am almost 30 and never even had a boyfriend or a kiss or date or anything. I had gallbladder issues (most women do!) so I can’t eat a lot of stuff that would help me gain weight. Exercising makes me feel better and I think it helps with my digestion so I can’t stop doing that. Skinny is not everything. I may be skinny with my clothes on but naked I am very hairy (can’t afford waxing or laser), I have weird birthmarks, a line on my stomach, surgery scars, a crooked face (my doctor pointed that out!) and discolouration. Some things could be corrected but would require lots of money. I would love to be perfectly smooth and shiny like all those brown celebrities and grow a few inches in every direction. People stare at me because I look like an alien with a tiny body and a large head. I look like a boy/girl who is 12 but I am a grown woman. That is why transgender people frustrate me…yeah I’m going there. Why would you intentionally want to mess yourself up like that? Why does everyone else have to accept themselves or age with grace and they don’t? Some people look androgynous already or are actual hermaphrodites. I would love to get my crooked nose and jaw fixed or get laser hair removal and they spend thousands cutting off their genitals and breasts.

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By: Katy https://godammit.com/hate-your-legs/comment-page-1/#comment-2385168 Mon, 14 Apr 2014 21:16:34 +0000 http://www.godammit.com/?p=10192#comment-2385168 I love my legs. They are not skinny or meaty, they are just legs but importantly they take me where I want to go, be it running, walking or climbing. They are often white and pasty, bruised and scarred but I refuse to bow to the fashion standard and thigh gap mania. Did she run a half marathon this weekend? Or manage to run for her train carrying a 20kilo suitcase in her arms? Probably not. That’s what legs should do. Having broken one last year my mobility and strength outweigh any visual worries.

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By: Cricket9 https://godammit.com/hate-your-legs/comment-page-1/#comment-2385152 Sun, 13 Apr 2014 04:01:54 +0000 http://www.godammit.com/?p=10192#comment-2385152 Pfft. I’m 64, live in a place with a fairly big population of American expats, and just LOVE my legs. They get me wherever I want to go, they climb stairs and jump over the puddles. I wouldn’t make such a big deal out of this, but – so many people my own age or younger CAN’T WALK. Not the locals, of course, I’m talking about Americans and an odd Canadian. I’ve never seen, in my entire life, so many replaced hips and knees, so many joints giving up under the huge weight, so many people telling me that 15 minutes walk is “very far” and I should take a cab. Fuck the skinny legs, I love my well-functioning legs, even if they are, by someone standards, “meaty”.

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By: Debbie https://godammit.com/hate-your-legs/comment-page-1/#comment-2385128 Thu, 10 Apr 2014 22:48:57 +0000 http://www.godammit.com/?p=10192#comment-2385128 If I were a size 4 I’d die of happiness. I’d wear shorts and sleeveless tops and I would be totally ok dressing in summer. When you are size 14 the summer idea of clothing makes you super depressed.

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By: Sister Wolf https://godammit.com/hate-your-legs/comment-page-1/#comment-2385113 Thu, 10 Apr 2014 03:39:51 +0000 http://www.godammit.com/?p=10192#comment-2385113 Sheriji – I know, I wish I weren’t so suggestible.

David – He does like ‘meaty,’ you are absolutely right.

ali – Yep, it’s all fucked. Abs, butt, whatever it is, we can’t be good enough, we can’t measure up. Squats are the worst punishment of all.

Dj – Oh, you’re 60 too?? I should follow you lead on this.

Steph – If only I could do cartwheels! You’re right about everything, of course.

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By: Steph https://godammit.com/hate-your-legs/comment-page-1/#comment-2385102 Tue, 08 Apr 2014 16:36:11 +0000 http://www.godammit.com/?p=10192#comment-2385102 Fuckit. Everyone is built differently. There is always someone somewhere who will be attracted to a person, no matter what size or shape they are. Just like there is always someone somewhere armed with a scathing critique of a person’s anatomy. Like most, I have a running internal monologue letting me know how flawed I am. I do my best not to focus on it. As hard as it is (and yeah it’s fucking hard) I try to focus on just being healthy and comfortable. I guess that’s the thing most of us should strive for.

I hate seeing anyone singled out and mocked because of their body. I spent years thinking I was a hideous, skeletal freak because I was constantly bombarded by disgusted “OMG YOU”RE SO SKINNY!” exclamations. Then I grew an ass and was given the privilege of hearing about that, too. I’ve had boyfriends who’ve wanted me fatter. I’ve had boyfriends who’ve wanted me thinner. Regardless of the fact that my weight rarely fluctuates more than five freaking pounds in either direction, sometimes I think I’m scrawny and sometimes I think I’m pudgy. The media tells me I look all wrong, and I can buy my way to aesthetic perfection as if there even were such a thing. It’s all fucking ridiculous.

At this point, when I find myself wishing a piece of me was bigger or smaller or longer or shorter (AKA all the fucking time), it’s tempting to just punch myself in the face. Instead, I’ve started reminding myself that I can still do cartwheels at 42 and yes, it’s ridiculous, but it’s a better indicator that this body is working for me than measuring how I look against any body on the goddamn planet that isn’t and can never be mine.

Your legs are fucking awesome, Sister. Use them to kick the next person or thing that makes you feel otherwise.

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