Grief is powerful, and it’s a frightening reminder that we may all lose a loved one at any moment. Not to mention, your loss might be contagious (this particularly applied to mothers, though more so to mothers of babies who died; they were often thought to be able to give the evil eye or cast witchery on mothers with living babies).

So all your trolls and commenters are merely obeying their primeval instincts.

Anyway. Are there rules for grief? My friend’s mother lost a child at six months from a congenital lung defect; if he’d lived, he’d be 26 now. That baby is still part of their family, in some way. They still talk about him, and if you ask my friend, he says that there are four children in his family, and one died at six months; the dead boy is still my friend’s brother. It’s not as weird as it sounds. There are no preserved dusty bassinets in shut-up rooms, or anything – but if the topic comes up, that family acknowledges, that they had another baby, and they loved him, and he’s gone.

What business is it of mine or anyone else’s if you do what you need to do to get through a loss that no one else is going to suffer in exactly the same way?

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So with that said feel free to mourn away it is your RIGHT!!!!

Having said that,
please do not stop being angry. Please do not stop being passionate about pointing out idiotic, useless assholes who take up useful bandwith for other more interesting subjects. Please don’t stop using this blog as a method of trying to cope. I think you are an amazingly strong woman, and I wish you all the best that is realistically possible.

XXX