Comments on: It’s My Party And I’ll Cry If I Want To https://godammit.com/its-my-party-and-ill-cry-if-i-want-to/ And I'm getting madder. Tue, 15 Oct 2019 15:18:29 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.5.2 By: Stephanie https://godammit.com/its-my-party-and-ill-cry-if-i-want-to/comment-page-1/#comment-2761812 Tue, 15 Oct 2019 15:18:29 +0000 https://godammit.com/?p=13985#comment-2761812 Who did thode tattoos?
They’re so lovely and so you.
xo

]]> By: Bevitron https://godammit.com/its-my-party-and-ill-cry-if-i-want-to/comment-page-1/#comment-2761796 Mon, 14 Oct 2019 01:09:40 +0000 https://godammit.com/?p=13985#comment-2761796 Great post, Sister Wolf.

I live a lot in a state of sad, due to various shit out of, and some shit somewhat under, my control. Physical ailments make everything worse. Arthritic shit…well, it’s just ’cause you’re getting older. No, this isn’t that. Pain can eclipse the strongest discipline. But, to most people it’s just garden variety pissing & moaning, and it’s just SO depressing. It reminds them way too much of their own vulnerability and mortality, and there’s some kind of unwritten law that we just won’t do that to each other. But the loss of what you used to be able to do, and do easily, is real grief. I can’t imagine what must be the bottomless anguish of losing a child…how on earth would you ‘get over’ that??

I am old, and while I’ve still got my marbles, mostly, I’m going to be how I am and what I’m going through. I won’t hold hands and help people deal with their difficulty dealing with my difficulties…you’re on your own, folks.

]]> By: Romeo https://godammit.com/its-my-party-and-ill-cry-if-i-want-to/comment-page-1/#comment-2761788 Sun, 13 Oct 2019 13:39:57 +0000 https://godammit.com/?p=13985#comment-2761788 Have you considered playing that Eric Clapton song about Heaven? Whenever I’m feeling some pesky emotions I just put that on repeat until I remember that I’m part of a nation of sociopaths and I’d better get my shit together if I want to stay out of the for-profit prison system.

It also reminds me that Heaven and God are totes real.

]]> By: Kellie https://godammit.com/its-my-party-and-ill-cry-if-i-want-to/comment-page-1/#comment-2761779 Sat, 12 Oct 2019 21:29:50 +0000 https://godammit.com/?p=13985#comment-2761779 As a person who has done little in life, but to be forced to deal with loss, I understand somewhat your struggle. And also as to wether or not I am “sad and depressed” or realistic.
Because we cant put on a fake happy face to appease others, they are uncomfortable. And that isnt something I feel like I have to do anymore. I cant fake happy, so that you remain undisturbed in your life. I dont have that energy available to me. I need it all to try to live my daily life.
So I have to be me, and you have to be you. And we continue on. Until we cant.
Which is all anyone can reasonably expect-right?
Thank you for the good post.

]]> By: Liza https://godammit.com/its-my-party-and-ill-cry-if-i-want-to/comment-page-1/#comment-2761777 Sat, 12 Oct 2019 14:04:26 +0000 https://godammit.com/?p=13985#comment-2761777 Holly shit girl friend, you should see my art work! Which I do to help myself from going crazy! I’ve been accused of being too sad and morbid to even be friends with… my last so called boyfriend was too uncomfortable to spend more than ten minutes in my house. I feel your sadness and it’s welcome here.
Big love
LiZa
I’m sorry that we live so far away from each other….

]]> By: David Duff https://godammit.com/its-my-party-and-ill-cry-if-i-want-to/comment-page-1/#comment-2761776 Sat, 12 Oct 2019 13:47:21 +0000 https://godammit.com/?p=13985#comment-2761776 I’m glad you inserted “grumpy” into your list of permitted feelings, it almost cheered me up!

]]> By: Sister Wolf https://godammit.com/its-my-party-and-ill-cry-if-i-want-to/comment-page-1/#comment-2761771 Sat, 12 Oct 2019 08:57:32 +0000 https://godammit.com/?p=13985#comment-2761771 kate – Yes, yep. I’m so sorry. Thank you for understanding. xo

mary – That is great to hear! That’s how this is supposed to work! xo

]]> By: mary https://godammit.com/its-my-party-and-ill-cry-if-i-want-to/comment-page-1/#comment-2761770 Sat, 12 Oct 2019 08:43:36 +0000 https://godammit.com/?p=13985#comment-2761770 Thanks Sis. A post like this from you, makes this sad girl less sad.

]]> By: kate https://godammit.com/its-my-party-and-ill-cry-if-i-want-to/comment-page-1/#comment-2761766 Sat, 12 Oct 2019 02:28:18 +0000 https://godammit.com/?p=13985#comment-2761766 When my son died, I realized some things: I had changed completely and permanently from his death. By accepting that I’d changed, I waved good bye to whomever I was and that was fine by me. Another thing was that there was always a parade of stupid around me. I finally accepted that as well and have successfully ended a few relationships that did nothing for me. The people that went through the experience with me know me and accept me for who I was and who I am now… “put the grief behind him”- said the person who’d never buried their own child.

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