Suspended – I love to see men wearing women’s clothes and of course women wearing masculine clothes. But I feel many traits are hardwired. I also believe in spectrums – so all these traits exist on a spectrum. Men who are sensitive to words, to color, to tactile things, to smell, are the ones I treasure most. It must be exhausting to try to exhibit cliches of masculinity or femininity all day long!

I hate rigidity. I hate that people try to gender-ise everything. This is a feminine smell, this is a masculine colour. Says who? And the boundaries change monumentally based on culture. I just can’t pretend I care. If a man wants to smell of roses and wear a pink t-shirt, why is this such a challenge for so many? Why the fuck does it matter so much? Put a woman in a YSL Tux and I’m feeling it (as long as it isn’t Lena Dunham.) Do I think she’s less feminine? I’m supposed to.

I love creativity, personal expression, people who walk to the beat of their own drum. Difference is a celebration and a welcome relief from the mundane. My son wanted to wear a fur stole to the park. I let him. He found it in the attic and was obsessed with how soft it felt, treating it like he would one of his soft toys, as a companion, a comforter. Did I think it was a bit odd he wanted to wear it? Yes, it was a beautiful Summers day so it was totally inappropriate, but I loved that. I don’t believe in shaming kids for being kids and not yet knowing the bullshit ‘boundaries.’ I know there are parents who would disapprove but they aren’t the kind of parents who truly nurture and love unconditionally, so I have no issue with their shortcomings.

Is it possible that men want a testosterone supplement as they get older, not as a manliness amp but rather a way to battle age fatigue. Feeling tired makes me feel old and I’d swallow a bottle of those pills just to see if it helped (even though I know the coffee and cheesecake for breakfast and going to bed at 3am when you have to get up at 7am are MAJOR factors.)

I love the last part about verbal memory and estrogen. That is so funny and fascinating. It made me wonder if female birds are the ones making all the noise in the trees.

Anyway, I see no harm in the sexes being more alike, or not being. There will always be more variety than most people can cope with. We are an astoundingly complex and inspiring species.

P.S. I was going to mention how breathtaking Marlene Dietrich was but I was worried it wasn’t a masculine enough observation. See how ridiculous this shit gets.

P.P.S. Maybe I just drink too much bottled water.

Anyway, fools worrying about testosterone levels is much more tolerable than that Iron John men’s movement thing from back in the early 90’s.