Comments on: Nothing Compares.

By: Sister Wolf

Sister Wolf — Fri, 04 Aug 2023 07:29:22 +0000

Kellie – Thank you for your concern, and I will always answer your email! I know what you mean about the Favored Son. I read an interview where she said that her son Sean was the most like her, even physically. I think parents tend to form a tighter bond with the kid that’s most like them, in temperament and sensibility. It’s easier to “get” them, you know? But yes, it must be hurtful to the other kids. Me, I used to say that Max is my soul, and Charlie is my heart.

But listen, it should NOT have been you! Cancer is just random: it doesn’t care who’s good or bad or moral or immoral. You can die of lung cancer without even smoking!

If soldiering on is the best we can do though, let’s keep doing it. Out of stubbornness, if nothing else. xoxo

By: Kellie

Kellie — Fri, 04 Aug 2023 02:43:58 +0000

I also knew she would not last without her son. I feel badly for the other kids, who were not as revered as He was. They have to feel like day old pastries-ok if there is nothing else better, but never someone’s first choice.
I know about survivor guilt. The first time I ever considered no longer being here was after my best friend died. She had everything to live for, and yet cancer took away her options. It should have been me, instead, for many reasons.
But we soldier on, in our half alive, half dead state. Hoping for something meaningful.
I am so glad you are back to posting. And thank you for replying to my email. I was worried and missed you.

By: Sister Wolf

Sister Wolf — Thu, 03 Aug 2023 01:48:58 +0000

Lindsay – No, thank YOU! I don’t want you to be sad though. I HAVE had enough but I’m sticking around anyway. xoxo

By: Lindsay

Lindsay — Thu, 03 Aug 2023 01:01:22 +0000

What Alison said.
When you stopped posting recently, I admit I thought briefly that something had happened to you. I felt so deeply sad at the possibility you decided you’d had enough.
Thank you for your words. Always thankful for your posts.

By: Sister Wolf

Sister Wolf — Wed, 02 Aug 2023 19:08:19 +0000

Sally – Thank you so much for reading about Max and acknowledging him! xoxo

By: Sally

Sally — Wed, 02 Aug 2023 10:21:27 +0000

I’m a mother and I’ve never thought that about you or other parents who have lost a child. No matter how that child left, the parent belongs here as much as the child who has gone does. Your Max sounds amazing, you raised a beautiful soul.

By: Sister Wolf

Sister Wolf — Wed, 02 Aug 2023 02:24:45 +0000

Bevitron – As I always tell you, never leave me! xoxo

mary – Thank you so much, your voice is meaningful to me xoxo

By: mary

mary — Tue, 01 Aug 2023 09:31:08 +0000

Alison says it much better than me but I still wanted to add my voice. You don’t need anyone’s forgiveness. I am so glad you are here with us still. x

By: Sister Wolf

Sister Wolf — Tue, 01 Aug 2023 03:43:27 +0000

Alison – So lovely and unselfish of you to reply to this and not be scared off by such darkness. I am grateful right back. xoxo

By: Bevitron

Bevitron — Tue, 01 Aug 2023 02:19:20 +0000

It is hard to add anything to Alison’s beautiful comment, which speaks perfectly for me, too, and probably many other people who read your posts. Take good care of yourself, please. Much love.
xoxoxo