Comments on: Okay, No.

By: Madam Restora

Madam Restora — Thu, 21 Jun 2018 06:40:39 +0000

Is it called ‘gender fluid’? I can’t tell who is a man and who is a woman anymore. My teenage daughter and I were in the car last week and we drove past two humans walking along the footpath holding hands. After we’d passed I said to her ‘was that two men or two women’. She said ‘I don’t know’. So we left it at that.
I suppose when you can buy eggs and sperm on the internet gender isn’t really an issue as long as you have a willing uterus to put it all in.
We are going to have some very confused people walking around in the future wondering who the hell they are, because no one has two dads and no mum, and vice versa, that’s just not possible.
Sorry I went completely off topic.

By: Suspended

Suspended — Tue, 12 Jun 2018 22:07:27 +0000

Wow, not only figuring out one’s identity based on zero life experience but actually remembering what it felt like to be a toddler.

Sorry, I’m calling absolute bullshit on that one.

Kids aren’t even interested in playing with other kids as toddlers, let alone understanding any differences between boys and girls. Most of them don’t even have a vocabulary beyond a few hundred words and certainly no capacity for such complex feelings and thoughts.

By: Dana

Dana — Tue, 12 Jun 2018 19:23:39 +0000

Trans kid has several trans friends who knew as toddlers. Y’all are welcome to my thoughts on this one subject I know something about. xo

By: Sister Wolf

Sister Wolf — Mon, 11 Jun 2018 21:34:32 +0000

Lynn Yanis – I’ve never listened to a podcast. But I’ll see what I can learn. I may not be able to do better, but thank you for your confidence in me! xo

By: Lynn Yanis

Lynn Yanis — Mon, 11 Jun 2018 15:00:56 +0000

I suggest you all check out the podcast, “How to be a Girl.” This mom had to figure out *everything* when her 3-year-old child said very definitely and consistently that she was a girl. Lots of good research and grounded information about the difference between a young child saying, “Mom, I’m a sparkley unicorn princess!” and “There was a mistake in your tummy and I am really a girl.” Please learn more, sister, about gender identity. You can do better. xox

By: Sister Wolf

Sister Wolf — Mon, 11 Jun 2018 06:13:19 +0000

Suspended – in fairness, if that is the right word here, the movie is a Disney pic. I love your take on the mom’s outfit! So astute of you.

Marla Griffith – I really don’t know what the hell is up with this woman. It turns out that a friend of mine knows her and says she is very “attention-seeking,” so there’s that.

By: Sister Wolf

Sister Wolf — Mon, 11 Jun 2018 06:08:21 +0000

Dana – Well, I’m glad you knew what to do and when to do it. If your kid knew who he was when he was a toddler, I have a lot to learn. xo

Scoutito – Good call but stripper is probably a bad word now.

Romeo – On point, as always.

Mary Liz – I wish I could use those bathtub pix for leverage but oh well.

KM – Yes, my thoughts too.

D.R. – Oh dear.

cm – I meant “bitch” in a conversational way. But if language is a thing with you, you are in the wrong place. You probably don’t think Ivanka is a cunt, right?

Erika – I’m afraid to look but I will when things settle down.

By: Sister Wolf

Sister Wolf — Mon, 11 Jun 2018 05:54:38 +0000

CJ – Your boyfriend was an asshole. Why did you let him hang around and abuse your kid for that long? That’s something I would never do. Sorry you’re so angry. I hope you make better choices in the future.

By: CJ

CJ — Mon, 11 Jun 2018 05:40:37 +0000

I like Dana’s comments above – thanks Dana!
Joanne, When I first saw the photo you posted, I thought you were going to write about this woman and her Little House on the Prairie looking dress and the white pumps.
I don’t know who she is, but your article really isn’t about her, it’s about letting little kids dress the way they want and equating that with “gayness” or “regular” sexual development and identity later on. Or is it about this Mom getting praised publicly? Or is it about her pushing her line of kids clothes? Goddammit Joanne you are REALLY mad this time!

I showed my 17 year old son the photo and asked him what he thought about it, and he thought that judging the Mom and even more, judging the kid, is stupid.
If she’s exploiting him for her clothes line, then yeah, that’s shitty, and that’s where you started, but that’s not where you ended up with this.

It’s not true that ALL boys will opt for the feathers and princess tutus. I’ve seen it.
Some boys will never pickup the dreaded barbie in pink or purple, and will only play with trucks and legos. What of it?

Thank G-O-D you didn’t allow your son to play with that harem outfit because obviously standing your ground that day is what helped ensure that he became a “REGULAR (READ:NORMAL) cis male in EVERY POSSIBLE RESPECT” – Geez – Okaaay, we get it – he fucked chicks. Congratulations! And none of that would have come to pass if you had let him play with that harem costume for godssakes!
So hey Moms, let’s just make sure our young Boys™?(Regular-Cis-Males-To-Be) wear only Brown, Navy, Olive, Orange and Gray because those colors are safe & heteronormative- that’s why they are the only colors in every boys department -Duh!
And if they deign to stray toward a sequin, dial 1-800 CIS-MALE and nip that shit in the bud! good job Mommy you’ve just earned yourself a badge in early childhood repression)
You actually wrote the following sentence:
“If he had continued to exhibit a desire for dresses, at some point I would have sought professional help to figure things out” DO you mean “figure things out” for yourself?
Like how to deal with YOUR disappointment that he might NOT turn out to be “a regular cis male in every possible respect”. Or do you mean you’d have sought professional help to set him straight?
Which is it?
You know what I sought professional help for? I sought professional help for an asshole boyfriend that picked on my son for 7 years because my son had no interest in trucks or legos or Starwars and liked to dress up & wear make up once in a while.
It drove this guy nuts. And he was “an ARTIST”!?
Homophobia takes many subtle forms, and can be carried forth by mothers as well as fathers.
Joanne honey sweetie, please check yourself. You’re not a gay man in a woman’s body, you’re Anita Bryant in a hipster’s body.
oxo

By: Marla Griffith

Marla Griffith — Sun, 10 Jun 2018 04:49:21 +0000

I agree with you. Parents need to be parents, not friends. It looks like he is trying to hide in her skirt. Poor kid.