Comments on: Smell the Leather

By: Swan

Swan — Fri, 04 Feb 2011 00:05:05 +0000

“A rejecting father is forever, like a diamond.” Yup. I’ve got 2.

By: Misfit Sarah

Misfit Sarah — Fri, 28 Jan 2011 12:04:36 +0000

“A rejecting father is forever, like a diamond.”

Fuck me. Twenty five years of therapy and you have just put it right there, in one sentence that cuts to the truth of it like a fucking laser.

In a year of reading, this is the first time I have ever felt compelled to comment. I feel as though you have just said the first thing that has ever made sense about my sperm donor/father. Is this some sort of revelation? I want to get that tattooed on my arm.

Thank you.

Are they all cunts?

Sarah

By: kate

kate — Tue, 25 Jan 2011 19:22:52 +0000

i’ve always been jealous and a little creeped out by girls who just loved their fathers because they were daddie’s little girl. is that even normal?
my dad wasn’t the greatest, and i still don’t like him. but i’m thankful he wasn’t as bad as my friend’s dad. i agree with audi (and probably many others here) when she says, just drop him. what’s the point of trying? i keep my dad in my life (barely) because… he lives with my mom. waddya gonna do?

By: Audi

Audi — Mon, 24 Jan 2011 04:28:18 +0000

Oh I can so, so relate to this. I also have a shitty dad and over the years I’ve tried to keep up a relationship with him. Every time it inevitably degrades because he’ll never, ever change. He’s selfish and small-minded and not worth my time; we haven’t spoken in almost 3 years. It sucks have a lousy dad, but letting him into your life only makes it worse. Better to cut the ties and not let him hurt you any more.

Another old biddy: sign me up for the club!

By: candy

candy — Mon, 24 Jan 2011 03:11:09 +0000

Debbie, fair enough!

By: Another old biddy

Another old biddy — Sun, 23 Jan 2011 22:42:33 +0000

Where do I sign up for the “My Dad’s a Bastard Club”?

I haven’t seen or spoken to mine in 7 years. I don’t even know if he’s still alive. Out of sight, out of mind. 🙂

By: Debbie

Debbie — Sun, 23 Jan 2011 16:35:07 +0000

Candy: If I really wanted to be negative, I would have wished a vinyl room instead of leather so he could sniff but the smell would not be there. Thanks Sister for the comment.

By: Bevitron

Bevitron — Sun, 23 Jan 2011 09:22:51 +0000

Oh, brother. Or father, more to the point. Some people just can’t be bothered with other people’s shit – it’s too upsetting, too depressing, too not about themelves. I really think the boredom factor enters into it far more than any inability to tolerate strong emotions & so on. “Are you gonna talk about that crap all the time?”, blah blah blah. I know he’s your old dad and you love him, and I’d strongly recommend you keep right on doing so, with all your might, because you can. He’s just crazy and will never be able to recognize what a great, radiant soul he’s father to.

By: Sister Wolf

Sister Wolf — Sun, 23 Jan 2011 06:11:21 +0000

Debbie – Hahahahahahahahaha!

Candy – Don’t be mad at Debbie: she made me laugh. My father isn’t depressed, he’s just a selfish fucker.

By: andrea

andrea — Sat, 22 Jan 2011 23:52:35 +0000

Just thought I would add another nugget from my mother. Hopefully, it will make you laugh, and if not, then to feel not so alone with your horrible parents. When I was dating my now husband, she said to me “I hope you are being nice to X” (don’t want to expose his name to the limelight), really meaning, “I hope you are not showing your true colors (venom, mentioned in my previous post) to him or you will lose him”. Unfortunately, this stuff affected me for a good part of my life and motivated a lot of my behavior. But now I am finally free of it and can laugh about it. I hope you will be able to do the same some day too.