Comments on: Stubborn Like Me

By: dorkmyster

dorkmyster — Tue, 07 Sep 2010 05:58:02 +0000

I dont think the stubbornness is bad in and of itself. It’s where you choose to focus the quality. Like, I would like to refuse to let anyone get to my sense of myself or my peace of mind. I wish I were more stubborn about that. THat would be a good thing. Stubbornness about ego and pride is just too painful to hold on to. So I think the question is ..What are you going to stubborn about ? I refuse to battle over a parking spot. I’d rather walk further even if it means I miss the first fifteen minutes of a movie. I stubbornly refuse to waste my time convincing someone to agree with me. Great subject though

By: hammiesays

hammiesays — Sat, 04 Sep 2010 18:05:19 +0000

I can only let go when I stop looking. So I am learning to stop looking. xx

By: Bevitron

Bevitron — Thu, 02 Sep 2010 23:49:13 +0000

What Mark said? – turning it into art? Yes! Absolutely! I’m talking about the kind of art you sell. Which gives you $$ for your anger and vindictiveness, which is the way to go, as far as I’m concerned. But I do see that as letting it go. A difference of interpretation, I guess.

By: Cricket9

Cricket9 — Thu, 02 Sep 2010 22:59:52 +0000

Well, I’m not about “letting EVERYTHING go”. There are things that are unforgivable; there are people that don’t deserve to be called “human beings” and I don’t want to have anything to do with them. I broke up with a friend who turned into a demented bitch and did everything to make my life miserable. I will never, ever speak to her again, and I don’t care if a train runs over her. I just don’t spend time thinking about her or plotting for the train accident to happen. I get angry, I don’t tolerate bullying, and at this point in my life I’m not particularly afraid to speak my mind or intimidated by authority. Im my youth I was, however, a people pleaser and a doormat. Things change…

By: liz

liz — Thu, 02 Sep 2010 20:01:35 +0000

That’s such an amazing contest, so hilarious. I’m on the other side of the spectrum, i let everything go, even when I shouldn’t, even when it ends up hurting me. I’m working on being more stubborn in that respect

By: RLC

RLC — Thu, 02 Sep 2010 17:16:52 +0000

@ Cami I was in the exact, exact same relationship for two years. For at least a whole year I didn’t go one single day without crying for some reason, he didn’t go a week without either crying or punching something/someone (the someone was sometimes me) and we just lived off the comfort of having one another and the relief of making up after a big fight. When you’re “stuck” – for want of a better word – in that kind of relationship, being alone seems fucking terrifying, but I tell you I’ve been single for about 9 months now and I feel so bloody free and happier than I did for the two years we dated, happier than I was even in the good parts.

SW I wish I were more stubborn like you. I let almost everything go, from the deaths of loved ones to people being morons to friends hurting me badly. I refuse to hold even a small grudge and I never dwell on the past, which sounds like it could be a good thing, but it’s not, especially when someone has wronged me in an awful way and I’ve forgiven them within a day, or if I’ve lost someone or something that I move on from too quickly. Be stubborn! It shows you’re headstrong and have faith in your own opinion. And if anyone tells you otherwise, just say you’re too stubborn to change.

By: Winter Bird

Winter Bird — Thu, 02 Sep 2010 16:50:39 +0000

I just want one of Theresa’s passion fruit margarita’s!

By: Mark

Mark — Thu, 02 Sep 2010 15:36:24 +0000

Let it go? Come on! You can turn revenge, retaliation, and anger into art, if you try hard enough.

By: ellio100

ellio100 — Thu, 02 Sep 2010 13:01:06 +0000

i’m called stubborn sometimes, but actually i’m scared. i’m scared of change and scared that if i’m not in control i will be obsolete.

By: Dru

Dru — Thu, 02 Sep 2010 11:47:49 +0000

As of this past Sunday, I got myself a law degree. I’m fucking stubborn about the fact that I refuse to use it unless I’m starving- I don’t ever want to be a lawyer or anything similar, and taking up faffy NGO work is not an option for me- it’ll be the fastest route to my death in six months if I do.

I’m also being rather stubborn about not speaking to a parent who (among other things) didn’t get it, and thought every other option I might have chosen for my life was, well, faff. I only stuck with it this long because I was forced to, and it’s a combined Bachelor’s degree so quitting would have left me with no college-level qualification at all- but fuck it, I can’t keep going down this road. Staying alive was hard enough as a student, it’d be impossible in the tiny incestuous fishbowl world that is lawyering in this country. And I have to be stubborn about it, because if I’m not, (and sorry to put it in such corny words) I’ll lose myself.

But the smaller things? Those, they can slide. A bit of internal snarking helps with that.