gratitude https://godammit.com And I'm getting madder. Sun, 09 Feb 2020 23:37:13 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.5.2 https://i0.wp.com/godammit.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/05/Screen-Shot-2016-05-13-at-7.18.14-AM-1.png?fit=32%2C32&ssl=1 gratitude https://godammit.com 32 32 110361536 The Splinter https://godammit.com/the-splinter/ https://godammit.com/the-splinter/#comments Sun, 09 Feb 2020 22:30:16 +0000 https://godammit.com/?p=14203 Continue reading ]]>

Yesterday, my sister and I visited our favorite jewelry shop, Nobel Jewelry in Santa Monica. From the outside it looks like a hole-in-the-wall kind of place, but inside it is a glittering wonderland of beautifully displayed antique jewels. You can get a chain repaired for a few bucks, or you can purchase an Art Deco diamond engagement ring for $20,000. You can also chat with the owners, Ken and Kia, a pair of charming guys who emigrated from Persia with their family when they were boys.

So my sister had some things that needed repairs, and I wanted to argue about rings, and as we prepared to leave, Ken asked if we wanted to see a diamond he’d just acquired. It was a ring he had to get from the window, a spectacular European cut diamond solitaire. He offered up his jeweler’s loupe so we could appreciate its unique properties.

I asked Ken if I could use the loupe to look at the splinter in my thumb, which has been driving me nuts. I got it from an attack by a potted cactus on my front porch, nearly a month ago. My husband  couldn’t extract it and neither could I. I had gone to my doctor to get it out, and she ended up saying, “I think I got it but maybe not all of it.”

She didn’t get “all of it”, as it was getting swollen and now I could barely use my thumb.

So Ken said, “You have a splinter? Let me see!” He seemed concerned. He looked at it and said, “That must hurt.” He looked through his loupe and exclaimed, “That’s been in there a long time!” Then he announced, “I’ll get it out for you.”

He disappeared into a back room and my sister looked at me with fear and wonder. She asked me if I was really going to proceed with this. Ken came back with some alcohol, a needle nose tweezers and a visor thing with goggles. He bent over my thumb and started to work.

It took a while. It hurt but I trusted him implicitly, such was his confident and gentle manner. While he was at it, a guy came to the shop’s locked iron gate and Ken called out, “I’ll be right with you.” I told him he could stop to let the customer in, but he was lost in his efforts. I told my sister, “Go engage that guy to keep him there! Ask him how his day is going!” But the guy was gone.

Finally, Ken got the splinter. He said triumphantly, “No wonder this hurt.” He lay the splinter on my thumb and told my sister to take a picture with her phone. We both said FUCK! appreciatively; it was a long sharp cactus thingy.

Ken got some antibiotic cream and covered the hole in my thumb. I got a band-aid from my purse and he wrapped it around my thumb. Now Ken and I were bonded forever. We were both elated. He revealed that he was all too familiar with splinters, it was part of his work as a jeweler.

We stood in the glow of our shared trust and gratitude, and I tried to remember a fable about a mouse who gets a splinter out of a lion’s paw. I couldn’t remember how it ended. I hoped the lion didn’t eat the mouse for his trouble.

I shook Ken’s hand with my good one, and wandered out of the store, my faith in humanity kindled like never before and knowing that even if I died from a flesh-eating bacteria, it would make a great story.

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Mothers Day https://godammit.com/mothers-day/ https://godammit.com/mothers-day/#comments Sun, 08 May 2011 11:15:37 +0000 http://www.godammit.com/?p=7580 Continue reading ]]> This Mothers Day I am reminded of The Mommy Exchange I outlined last year. It’s a  really  great system, now more than ever.

I think of my commenters here as my babies, even if you’re older than me. You’ve all given me so much comfort and laughter, you’ve made me feel special and you make me so proud of you. On the other hand, many of you have been like mommies when that’s what I needed. Sometimes you’ve got to make your own family as you go along.

I’d like to tuck you all in bed and kiss you good night. Then maybe you can tuck me in. Go and read about the Mommy Exchange here if you forgot it. Tonight my darling friend Summer wrote to me: “Happy Mothers day, Mommy! Love,   Mommy.” It works! xoxo

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A New Page https://godammit.com/a-new-page/ https://godammit.com/a-new-page/#comments Wed, 30 Dec 2009 04:27:40 +0000 http://www.godammit.com/?p=3784 Continue reading ]]> thanks-to-the-angels

How can I thank the Angels who have made donations to the Sister Wolf Plague of Calamities Fund? You are amazing. You have given me strength and put food on my table.   I’m pretty sure I don’t deserve you but I’m so grateful for your generosity.

There’s a new page to honor my patrons and angels, over there on the right-hand column.

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