{"id":12977,"date":"2018-06-07T22:51:19","date_gmt":"2018-06-08T05:51:19","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/godammit.com\/?p=12977"},"modified":"2018-06-07T22:51:19","modified_gmt":"2018-06-08T05:51:19","slug":"okay-no","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/godammit.com\/okay-no\/","title":{"rendered":"Okay, No."},"content":{"rendered":"

Jaime King<\/strong> is an actress or something who recently appeared on a red carpet with her 4 year old son James, who as you can see is dressed like a girl.<\/p>\n

Can we not pretend that he isn’t dressed like a girl? If we can’t agree on this, just stop reading. Thanks.<\/p>\n

Jaime posted this photo on social media, and naturally, a bunch of celebs<\/a> were eager to applaud her excellent parenting. \u201cWhat a wonderful mom and human you are,\u201d wrote Lisa Ling.<\/p>\n

Jesus Christ! This is what gets you praise as a mother in 2018. Good for you, you’re letting a toddler decide its gender! I’m sorry but this bitch is way out of line with this. My belief system is going to be labeled outmoded and transphobic by forward thinking liberals but I’m good with that. My feelings come from experience with preschool children, who are all drawn to fancy clothes, whatever their gender.<\/p>\n

Preschool children, when presented with a trunk full of clothes to play with, will go for the feathered boas and princess outfits BECAUSE THEY ARE FANCY AND PRETTY! My friend, who ran a beloved preschool for a hundred years, explained this to me when I expressed concern with one of my young sons. He was around 3 and wanted a sexy harem girl costume for Halloween. We were looking at a catalogue, and I said, “Nah, lets look at these<\/em> costumes instead.” He grew up to be a regular cis male in every possible respect.<\/p>\n

Do you think I should have squealed “YES, let’s get that harem girl outfit! Your wishes will guide me! Want a couple of dozen doughnuts, too?” I didn’t feel like encouraging behavior that struck me as inappropriate. If he had continued to exhibit a desire for dresses, at some point I would have sought professional help to figure things out.<\/p>\n

I remember another mom, that same Halloween, who got her preschool boy a lavish gown to wear, with a lot of trailing chiffon. I disapproved but minded my own business. I’m pretty sure he dressed like a girl after that.<\/p>\n

My mom dressed my sister and me in all kinds of outfits, but she kept our hair short. I think she was too lazy to deal with brushing it. I’m so glad she didn’t dress me like a cowboy or policeman. I had enough trouble fitting in. (Now, of course, I’m a gay man in a female body, but that’s a whole other post.)<\/p>\n

In our effort to support gender fluidity, parents are jumping<\/a> at the chance to be supportive. I think it would be more supportive to wait and observe. Toddlers love to experiment with everything. It’s how they learn. Gender is more than a social construct, as brain science tells us.<\/p>\n

But Jaime King started a gender-free line of clothing two years ago. Is this the chicken or the egg? Who knows. I only know that the photo above does not merit a Mom of the Year Award so much as a HOLD UP! citation. Just no.<\/p>\n

Alright, come at me, social justice warriors!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"