{"id":13805,"date":"2019-07-09T17:05:07","date_gmt":"2019-07-10T00:05:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/godammit.com\/?p=13805"},"modified":"2019-07-09T17:05:07","modified_gmt":"2019-07-10T00:05:07","slug":"12-other-steps","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/godammit.com\/12-other-steps\/","title":{"rendered":"12 Other Steps"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/godammit.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/Aline-Smithson-small.jpg?ssl=1\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-13808\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/godammit.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/Aline-Smithson-small.jpg?resize=500%2C500&#038;ssl=1\" alt=\"\" width=\"500\" height=\"500\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/godammit.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/Aline-Smithson-small.jpg?w=500&amp;ssl=1 500w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/godammit.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/Aline-Smithson-small.jpg?resize=150%2C150&amp;ssl=1 150w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/godammit.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/Aline-Smithson-small.jpg?resize=300%2C300&amp;ssl=1 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 500px) 100vw, 500px\" data-recalc-dims=\"1\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>1. Admit that everything is horrible and out of control.<\/p>\n<p>2. Accept that no god of anyone&#8217;s understanding will step in to fix it. (see historical genocide, natural disasters, Donald Trump.)<\/p>\n<p>3. Turning yourself over to any person or entity will only reduce what&#8217;s left of your free will. (see religion, social media, and advertising.)<\/p>\n<p>4. Admit that you are fucked up and that in large part it was your childhood experience that is to blame, along with your genes.<\/p>\n<p>5. Accept your failures and forgive yourself. Ask forgiveness where you deserve it but don&#8217;t be surprised if you don&#8217;t get it.<\/p>\n<p>6. Look to thinkers you respect for the wisdom you need to keep going. Try Camus, Sartre, <a href=\"https:\/\/plato.stanford.edu\/entries\/schopenhauer\/\">Schopenhauer<\/a>, George Orwell, Doris Lessing, Fran Lebowitz, Tolstoy, Dostoevsky, or Hermann Hesse.<\/p>\n<p>7. See a professional if things get too rough.<\/p>\n<p>8. Accept that you have caused harm but that you are human. Try to do your best going forward.<\/p>\n<p>9. Every day, try to think about someone else and try to do one small thing to ease someone&#8217;s burden, even a phone call to someone who lives alone.<\/p>\n<p>10. Realize how repetitive the 12 steps of AA are! Fucking hell! Enough guilt already!<\/p>\n<p>11. Continue to think about other people, since reflecting on your flaws is an endless loop created by brain chemistry gone awry.<\/p>\n<p>12. Reach out to others in your despair! They too know that everything is horrible and out of control! Ask for and offer comfort! Look to art when your brain hurts or your heart aches. And have a drink if you feel like it. I&#8217;ve just discovered <a href=\"http:\/\/www.elcompadrerestaurant.com\/home\">Flaming Margarita&#8217;s<\/a> and they are amazing!<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/godammit.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/margarita-sunset.jpg?ssl=1\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-13811\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/godammit.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/margarita-sunset.jpg?resize=400%2C400&#038;ssl=1\" alt=\"\" width=\"400\" height=\"400\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/godammit.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/margarita-sunset.jpg?w=400&amp;ssl=1 400w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/godammit.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/margarita-sunset.jpg?resize=150%2C150&amp;ssl=1 150w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/godammit.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/margarita-sunset.jpg?resize=300%2C300&amp;ssl=1 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" data-recalc-dims=\"1\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>1. Admit that everything is horrible and out of control. 2. Accept that no god of anyone&#8217;s understanding will step in to fix it. (see historical genocide, natural disasters, Donald Trump.) 3. Turning yourself over to any person or entity &hellip; <a href=\"https:\/\/godammit.com\/12-other-steps\/\">Continue reading <span class=\"meta-nav\">&rarr;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":13808,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","enabled":false}}},"categories":[5,11,6],"tags":[585,1144,475,584],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/godammit.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/Aline-Smithson-small.jpg?fit=500%2C500&ssl=1","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p7t44M-3AF","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/godammit.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13805"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/godammit.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/godammit.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/godammit.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/godammit.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=13805"}],"version-history":[{"count":5,"href":"https:\/\/godammit.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13805\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":13812,"href":"https:\/\/godammit.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13805\/revisions\/13812"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/godammit.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/13808"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/godammit.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=13805"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/godammit.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=13805"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/godammit.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=13805"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}