A Good Question Worth Considering


After mocking ShopCurious the other day, I was disarmed by the playful response from the site’s creator, Susan. On her ShopCurious blog, she poses the question, What would you like to be remembered for?

I think it’s a great question and not at all a morbid one, despite my husband’s tendency to flip out when I mention my death or my funeral arrangements. Most people don’t like contemplating their existence, let alone the fact that it’s finite. Like Woody Allen, I don’t mind dying, I just don’t want to be there when it happens!

I used to worry about the way people might remember me: I figured they would open my drawers and shriek, “God, did this bitch hoard cashmere sweaters!” That alone made me want to make sure to live forever. Or to give the sweaters away while I had the chance.

But something about Susan’s blog caused me to stop and ponder the question. It’s a hard one. I tried to answer it but I think that at different times in your life, your perspective changes, sometimes radically, and your answer may change as well.

I’m more sure of what I don’t want to be remembered for. I don’t want to be remembered as someone who never lived up to her potential. I don’t want to be remembered for any kind of betrayal. I don’t want to be remembered for caving in to outside pressure.   Most of all, I don’t want to be remembered for failing my children, and that is clearly the toughest challenge.

Thinking about Susan’s blog, it also occurs to me that I don’t want to be remembered for closing my heart to an offer of friendship. I’m here for you Susan, even though I made fun of that horrible rat necklace.

May you all enjoy your Dio de los Muertos !

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16 Responses to A Good Question Worth Considering

  1. Kate says:

    Other than the rat necklace, which sort of has its odd charm in a John Waters way, Shopcurious is a rather compelling shopping/browsing experience.

    Reading about Susan’s book ‘Trends Beyond Life: In Search of Immortality’ makes me think she’s got some mystical fashion mojo. Better not to pass up such a friendship. I might just break down and buy the book; trend forecasting has a spiritual-intellectual magic that fashion blog discourse too often forgets.

    Feliz (?) dia de los M & may you be remembered for being the most golden hearted cunt

  2. sarah.p says:

    The rat necklace made me hungry. The looked like giant citrus-flavoured sweeties. Yum!

    Susan’s blog is one hella treasure trove; but it does make me bitterly lament my poverty.

    I’ve taken off my dressings to frighten small children with my manky sliced finger. Happy All Hallow’s Eve!

  3. arline says:

    You are going to be remembered as a funny as shit person.

  4. marmalde wombat says:

    first halloween we got prepared with candy and no one came. a little bit disappointed but also a bit relieved – have always thought it inappropriate for children to go around the neighbourhood asking for treats from strangers when it’s not the cultural tradition in australia to do it. maybe it was just the same couple fatty boom booms and now they’ve grown up. 😛 who knows.

    cashmere sweaters are made to be hoarded and treasured…and the susan story is heartwarming! you are two gracious ladies.

  5. OK I still don’t like the rat necklace but that’s all right, as phew, let of by nice owner! On the other hand I was much captivated by troll wars ref troll Ellen. Okay what was that all about!

    So to answer the question what would I like to be remembered for …nope better not hijack and leave you a list that causes tumble weed to carry across the screen but I do think you should live as someone who wants to be remembered.

    Saying Dio de los Muertos makes Halloween/All souls eve sound sexy!
    I’m wearing an orange maxi dress with a mask tonight so that should scare a few kids and hopefully exciting the grown ups (just kidding about exciting the grown ups! )

  6. WendyB says:

    I would remember you as a highlarious…sweater hoarder.

  7. Jill says:

    I would remember you as…The coolest, irreverent chick with incredibly haute taste and an immense love for her family.

  8. Jill says:

    I was gonna say more, but I’m being barked and pawed at…isn’t that a literary sin? Ending with a preposition?!

  9. JK says:

    Just keep the words of my dear old (figuratively) Mom in mind and it’ll make the passing so less stressful.

    “Be sure to always put clean underwear on.”

  10. andrea says:

    I cannot say it any better than Jill Says: October 31st, 2009 at 5:02 am

    “I would remember you as…The coolest, irreverent chick with incredibly haute taste and an immense love for her family.”

    I second that!

  11. Style Spy says:

    Well, now I will remember you as both witty and gracious. Atta girl.


  12. Susan says:

    The best thing about this question is that it’s a source of inspiration for all sorts of amazing answers – I’ve enjoyed reading some of yours here and posted at ShopCurious. It also makes us think about what really matters – funny how so much other crap (did I say that word?) often gets in the way.

    I’m so glad to have made peace not war with you, Sister (though initially, I was in fear of being gobbled up for breakfast…) I look forward to getting to know you better – then we can start being really rude about each other. Meantime, I think you deserve a link on my blog x

  13. dust says:

    I’d like to remember you as the only person I know that will forever be cherished by her children with the words ” Oh, my mother! My mother never ………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………

  14. Hammie says:

    You are and will always be, a fierce friend. xx

  15. Aja says:

    You’ll be remembered for offering good humour to the world, which often takes itself way too seriously. And for giving some a run for their money. Oh and echoing Hammie, for being my friend.

  16. I’d like to be remembered as one who never allowed anyone around her to be (for lack of a better word) “fuct”.

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