Stick Around

All week, I’ve been reading the little tributes to Alexander McQueen. Some of them just feature a nice picture with either “R.I.P” or “There are no words.”

But there are words, and I’ve been waiting for them.

People who kill themselves take a lot of other people with them.

They aren’t “laughing in heaven with Isabella Blow”, they are just dead.

People who kill themselves are usually in great distress. They are not right in the head. If we take care to monitor our depressed friends and loved ones, we might be able to save them; but we might not.   Maybe we need to reach out more. Maybe we need to make depression easier to talk about. Antidepressants still carry a stigma even now. I can’t stand to hear people say “Oh, my doctor recommended medication but I’m not taking that route.” You never hear anyone with pneumonia making that statement.

Maybe Alexander McQueen was unhinged by grief over losing his mother. Now his dad has to deal with the loss of a son.

No one wants to talk about the brutality of suicide. The people left behind are victims as well. It’s an act of negation, a complete loss of hope, but it’s also a selfish act. I would even say ruthlessly selfish.

I’m not worried about whether poor Alexander McQueen is resting in peace, but I’m deeply sorry for his family. It will fuck them up forever.

Don’t kill yourself, you fuckers! We need you here. Things will get better. That is my message, so pass it on.

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54 Responses to Stick Around

  1. Deni says:

    Your a feisty one Sarah! Good for you! Jesus loves you. Nature is science, science is nature, I try my best to understand in a holistic way. Dialog is always good, yes? I’ll send you some links next week re/issues above in the mean time enjoy the ones below: I’m getting ready for my date, a man who has lived with cancer for three years and refuses conventional medicine. His choice. He’s surviving by nourishing his body, spirit, and mind.

    Check these out sites:
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    (Again sign up for the newsletter . . . just for fun.)
    (the LEF backs up with lots of research, the type you mentioned above.) (Again, sign up for the newsletter. Though I have issues with this place because it’s only for the rich and I do come from a country with socialized medicine, so I hate that fact that there’s elite medicine and “capitative” care in the US. But that’s a whole nutter . . .

    (Do you take the Hippocratic oath in the UK? Do you remember what Hippocrates said? “Let food be your medicine and medicine be your food.” -What the fuck did that old Greek fart know anyway . . . Fuck, I’m an old Greek fart at that, and besides what The Bleep Do I Know . . .

    “Occam’s razor (or Ockham’s razor[1]), entia non sunt multiplicanda praeter necessitatem, is the principle that “entities must not be multiplied beyond necessity” and the conclusion thereof, that the simplest explanation or strategy tends to be the best one. When competing hypotheses are equal in other respects, the principle recommends selection of the hypothesis that introduces the fewest assumptions and postulates the fewest entities while still sufficiently answering the question.That the simplest explanation or strategy tends to be the best one.” (Yeah, I hear the “tends” in there.) But I hear the “simplest explanation . . . best one” too!

    Gotta run . . .

  2. Deni says:

    Damn, I forgot to change my name . . . see the truth always comes out . . .Deni is Jesus . . .

  3. Alex says:

    Bravo Sarah. Many thanks for such a brilliant articulation of the pro-medication argument. I’m right beside you.

  4. apparellel says:

    i have had a lot of suicides in my family and i wholeheartedly agree with you on everything you said. i have also been extremely suicidal, so i kind of know both sides. the difference is i didn’t do it, because it ached my heart even more to think of what it would do to my family and friends.

    thank you.


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