Looking For My Group


In my desperation for contact with kindred spirits, I joined Meetup.com with the idea of finding a social group in my community that I could join.

You punch in your zip-code and you’re presented with a bunch of categories to click on.

There’s arts and culture, fitness, career, health and wellness, hobbies and crafts, etc.

It wasn’t long before I realized that I don’t like to do anything! It came to me like a bolt of lightening, even though you’d think I would know myself by now.

Hiking, no. Goddess Women, no. Yoga at sunrise, nope. Watercolor, no. Spiritual living, beginning motorcycle, exploring pubs, paper crafts, games, improv, no no no.


I complained to my husband and I complained on Facebook. Where’s the stuff I like? What about sitting around complaining? Where are the people who enjoy that? I can’t be the only one, right?

So a couple of days ago, I went to my own group called “Wandering around Nordstrom,” and talked to a beautiful young Russian emigre who works in cosmetics. She was willing to help me look for a product whose name I forgot by a brand I wasn’t sure about. She had beautiful long hair and a nice accent that she let me try to imitate. I fucking loved her!

We admitted to being kind of isolated in our new communities. So I told her about my effort to find a social group. She had tried that, too. We mused about forming a group to talk about fashion and hair. I added complaining and she was down for that too.

Feeling inspired, I went home and began to start a new group at Meetup. I was pretty happy with my description of ‘Fashion, Hair, and Complaining’, and clicked on ‘finish.’

They wanted $9.99 a month to list my group. Deal-breaker.

Somehow, that ruins it for me. That would be like buying friends, almost. I can’t stoop that low, even though I’ve stooped much lower on countless occasions. But still. I logged out in disgust.

Now they’ve sent me an offer to start a group at half-price.

Are they testing my principles? Or just trying to see how cheap I am?

Please advise.


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13 Responses to Looking For My Group

  1. k8 says:

    ‘Fashion, Hair and Complaining’
    Isn’t that this blog?
    That’s why I keep coming back.

  2. David Duff says:

    Forget the whole damn thing! You have your “Fashion, Hair & Complaining” group right here. Alright, it’s true that, as a scruffy and sometimes rather smelly old Brit, I’m not too hot on fashion. Also, as a man whose haircut takes 1min-35secs (I just sit in the chair and tell the lady ‘No2 all over’ and she uses a sort of mini hedge-trimmer) I am not very qualified as a hair specialist. However, as a grumpy old git of Olympian standards I can and do complain constantly, loudly about almost everything.

    So, Big Sis, just stay right here and let your adoring public do the rest.

  3. suzanne myers says:

    So funny. Worth it just to see who signs up – great social experiment! I have thought of starting a weekly group called Curmudgeon’s Corner. So fun!

  4. Miranda says:

    Hahaha!!! We’re kindred spirits. Too bad we’re on different coasts. XO

  5. Dj says:

    I say do it…it’s half the price of a glass of wine…you may be surprised! Give it a few months! I love bitching, moaning, fashion and hair!!! Count me in!

  6. annemarie says:

    why don’t you just call me more often? or ever even?

  7. Jane Bentley says:

    Geez all I know is that I would love to be friends with you. And feel like I already am because of your great blogs. Hideous Denim cheers me up every time I read it…….

  8. Sister Wolf says:

    k8 – Ha, well, thakn you for sticking with me!

    David Duff – You are the best. As you know. I’m just starved for in-the-flesh companionship. Would you mind crossing the ocean?

    suzanne meyers – I would attend your group, and I would add misanthropy if you let me.

    Miranda- Waaah.

    Dj – You think?

    annemarie – Good advice. But I need your physical presence as well.

    Jane Bentley – Oh good! thank you! Glad to hear!

  9. Dj says:

    Yes, forgot! I agree misanthropy, ennui and jadedness (a word?)

  10. Mary Liz says:

    I’m in a meetup book group that SHOULD be called A bunch of divorced middle-aged whining women and one guy in his thirties.

  11. Sister Wolf says:

    Mary Liz – Hahahahahahahahaha!

  12. Nola Rice says:

    I am looking for friends but I cannot be a half price friend. Sorry.

  13. Gina says:

    I’ll join that group. It would be via Skype, but I love the idea.

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