So you’re going along being a mom, and you think it’s permanent, because, you know, but then all of a sudden he or she decides it’s over.
He or she refers to you as a “biological mother” and pretty much tells you to fuck off.
He or she is just not that into you.
Naturally, you didn’t see this coming and you start wondering what happened, what drove him or her away.
Were you too clingy or too distant, too needy or too demanding, did you complain about the messy bedroom too many times? What did the other moms know that you didn’t?
Were you not a good listener? Were you too involved or not involved enough, too protective or too negligent? When they got big and started to scream at you, was it wrong to scream back? When you patiently read to them or tucked them in bed or served them dinner, was it stupid to think it was part of a lifelong deal?
When you get dumped, you have to let go. Mommy up.
They once loved you but now it’s over. Don’t stalk them online, looking for news, because they’ll just block you until you get the message. Even on Instagram.
It’s hard! But there’s nothing you can do. Accept that you have no power. It was good while it lasted. It was fun nursing them, dressing them up in those cute little outfits, watching TV with them, wrapping their Christmas presents, taking them to see Patti Smith, visiting their college.
They never asked to be born, remember?
Just try to forget about him or her. There are plenty of other kids out there.