The other day, I was devising a plan to get an acquaintance to admit that he will never drive to my house. I would put him on the spot by issuing an open invitation, saying, “Just pick any day that you’d like to come over and that will be fine!”
Ha, I thought. What then? That’ll fuck him up!
My husband pointed out that the acquaintance would just say, “Let’s talk after the holidays.”
Then he asked me what good it would do to get this guy to admit the truth.
Let’s pause here.
I have some questions.
Do you like to hear the truth?
Are you annoyed when you know someone is not being straight with you?
Do you practice denial in your daily life?
Do you respect other people’s right to practice denial?
Do you try to avoid being frank about unpleasant things?
And of course: Can you handle the truth?
I can’t handle the untruth. One of my most obnoxious traits is that I go around trying to get people to admit stuff.
I think of the title all the time, when someone is expecting me to accept some bullshit, however insignificant. JUST ADMIT IT TED, I feel like yelling. In fact, I think I have yelled it a couple times.
No one likes a friend who acts like a cross examining prosecutor but that doesn’t stop me.
Why can’t everybody just admit everything?
Is Oedipus an allegory about the price of knowing the truth? What about the story of Adam and Eve? Why are there so many myths that reinforce the idea that ignorance is bliss?
The truth might not set you free but it will make me feel better. I just want to hear it and get it over with.
Admit that you’re tired of this confession, which is territory I have already covered, sort of.
Admit that you don’t care about bad faith, as defined in existentialism.
Admit your deepest secret, at least to yourself, and see how liberating it is.
Admit everything, except in a court of law or a 12 step meeting or if your boss finds out you haven’t been filing those things but instead you just threw them in a box somewhere because you were busy fucking around online. Then you should just keep your mouth shut.