Sister Wolf,
I cannot believe you would make fun of ducklings. Please leave the ducklings alone. It is coincidence that they have been in movies lately. The ducklings have been exploited enough. Damnit, I don’t even think you are supposed to call them ducklings anymore! Please stop the hate.
xoxox,
Ash
You know…I noticed early on that people were going off on all kinds of tangents when you didn’t even say anything remotely incendiary. So strange…
Maybe people just come here to vent? Or to try and sound smart? Or to flex their insult muscles? Or to use the word “vitriol?” Or to talk about how jealous people are. Who knows?
And I think they prefer to be called “young ducks” instead of “ducklings.” Apparently it’s now a pejorative term.
I just watched this with my friend and we cracked up. Free to kiss your ass. I’m not too harmed by Freddie’s Mom. If anything she should be worried. That’s not the type of behavior a mother should be displaying. Then again most Mom’s don’t run around in booty shorts . . .
Holy shit. I just returned to my computer after a little hiatus…and came across this whole fiasco!
I watched the video first (feeling you as always SW), and then educated myself with a perusal of original post + comments. Wow. I had to ask myself if the comments would have gone quite where they did without Leisl’s initial choice of words? That isn’t a criticism of Leisl, either, just wondering if the specificity of the reference to ‘mail order brides’ might have been enough to take the conversation into a territory that the original post itself doesn’t. (?)
Anyway, when handled in the articulate and well-reasoned manner always forthcoming chez SW the whole racist (really? really?!) accusation quickly looses steam. The only racist aroma wafting around that post is the smell of batshit crazy from Mr Fanny’s Goat or whoever the fuck she is. Her comment horrified me on so many levels. I’m opting not to check out her blog or the other two…giving my eyeballs and my psyche a pass on this one. I just don’t need to know anything about these people, and in this case I’m not even curious.
The up-side of this debacle? We are rewarded with an always-awesome SW video! Ha! Take that Mr Fanny’s Goat!
THANK YOU for this timely message. WHEN did the words “Asian” or “Mexican” become racist?! My jaw is still agape at what Mr Freddy’s Mom said to Aja. Absolutely unreal and so so sad. Nothing that anyone (including Aja) said should have elicited a response like that. She should be ashamed.
Unrelated to the content of your video: your new nose rings looks great.
I saw nothing racist about Sister Wolf’s observations on the “wealthy Asian mom blogger” phenomenon. I was, however, taken aback and quite disgusted by the comment made by Mr. Freddie’s Mom. Her attack on Aja showed a total lack of class that no amount of money can buy.
I’m an Asian woman with an M.B., B.S. (who has since retired from practice, as has my uterus) who is married to a less educated Caucasian man five years my senior. I don’t need an older, rich, white, bald and fat husband to give me a sense of identity or buy me designer goods and take me on expensive holidays when I have a poor, working-class one who washes the dishes (by hand) and makes me a D-I-Y shoe stretcher like this one:
because I bought a pair of Doc Martens boots on eBay a size too small, forgetting that my shoe size may have increased since my last pair of Docs in the early nineties. If that isn’t true love, I don’t know what is.
Another old biddy – Well, we’ve offered up two asses to kiss, no one can say we’re stingy. And the shoe stretcher thing is indeed a love offering like no other. I want my husband to make me one.
I love your blog and come here for the writing, which is generally concise and biting. Your videos lack the first of these qualities. Stop filming, keep writing!
Personaly I have not come across any of these blogs but they sound like they would bore me. Sometimes political correctness goes too far.
Listening to your description of Jewish people though.. I think I may be Jewish.. I have a Jewish name and that is all ..maybe in a past life.. I am certainly of type ..even down to the hair xx
good grief, you got to work one day and have a sick child the next (guilty of gratuitous child in duvet pics on blog) and you find out all hell has broken loose!
I couldn’t believe it that comment was vile. Why are there all these mad vile hater types in the US on the internet. It was shocking..
What is more shocking though is that Aja was worried about her saying Daddy in a British accent. I think she should do a vlog saying it! Aja come on you’ll be fab. Thanks to you I’ve now decided to watch Gentlemen Prefer Blondes for the 100th time and think I’m going to call Mr MDS ‘Daddy’ all day.
Imagine if I wore short shorts as well – would that be trending or just obscene. I’m happy to embrace all manner of stereo types.
I douched before I logged on so I feel well qualified to speak here. What sort of a shit rebuttal did that woman leave! I was speechless. Way to prove your moronity wealthy asian mum blogger.
From a stereotypically drunk sunburnt Australian follower of SW, now if you will excuse me I have to go wrestle a croc.
Another old biddy- you’re awesome!
Mr. Freddie’s Mom- wow, you REALLY fucked up there, you silly fucking twat!
Aja- You are a model of dignity. Talk about taking the high road. I need lessons.
SW: well said, as always.
This is my first time posting here, and I just feel very strongly about this topic and would like to share my opinion:
Sister, this is YOUR blog and you are allowed to write about whatever you feel- it’s a little something called freedom of thought and freedom of speech. This applies to anything you feel needs to be commented on, and no body should be condemning you for exercising this right!
I happened to read the article about Asian Mom bloggers and I never thought it was racist or prejudiced. You were just pointing out something that was interesting, and it was for others to take at face value. It was other readers who misread between the lines and made it something it was not. While I wasn’t interested in the topic personally, I wasn’t in any way offended or uncomfortable reading this FACT. It was other people who entered hate and racism.
I am of the sound mind that people judge others on what they themselves initially think when they read something. That being said, I feel that it’s everyone else who condemned you for being prejudiced that are the racists! I like your blog a lot even though I’m not ‘fashion-inclined’- you always inspire me!
PS: I am a German-Canadian and I am proud to tell people this fact. As a result, I get called a Nazi and crap like that. My family moved to Canada on 1902, BEFORE the world wars, and so god damn! I never get pissed though, because that’s a stereotype Germans have been fighting for ages, and historically we are a loud, brutish people. I am a perfect example!
Another Old Biddy, your husband sounds like a treasure. Nothing beats a sweet homemade gift.
Make Do Style – When I lived in London I tried so hard not to pick up the British accent. Don’t get me wrong, I love it . . . but an American with a British accent quickly becomes the butt of all jokes, I’m looking at you, Madonna and Gwyneth Paltrow.
“It used to be easy for moguls to flaunt their power. All they had to do was renovate the chalet in St. Moritz, buy the latest Gulfstream (GD) jet, lay off 5,000 employees, or marry a much younger Asian woman.” (Joel Stein)
SW, please, don’t muzzle yourself. The only obviously racist person in the discussion happens to be Mrs. Freddie’s Mom. I’m glad that your ass is still available for kissing.
I’m deeply impressed by Mr. Another Old Biddy and his shoe stretcher.
My first instinct was to wrap myself in a green sheet and pose with the shoe storage system I made myself, with no rich husband. It houses my 200 pairs of shoes which i bought for my self.
All that silly soft porn posing is funny people.
And I am irish, so i must be a red haired, trouble making bankrupt drunk. I am probably guilty as charged.
The notion that some people would take offense to the civil discussion that was taking place far away from their turf is beyond my understanding. When you make your life’s content a part of the public domain, that content is subject to appraisal by the public. Such appraisal may not be limited to praise. You may disagree with some of the responses elicited by your posted material; these are just some products of critical thinking. However, resorting to racist slurs and hateful speech undermines your intelligence(?) greatly and makes you look like quite the fool.
I only got through a third of the video because I was too mesmerized by that slash of red (and, uh, because I think you come off better in print, like a lot of writers). I truly envy people who can pull off bombshell lipstick. Makes me want to throw out my pile of prissy MAC pinks and start over. But red lipstick always looks too try-hard on me – my personal theory is that it has to do with bone structure (or the lack thereof).
I had to back and catch up on the comment action. I can’t believe the response from Mr Freddy’s Mom. Aja – I am so sorry that you had put up with that ignorant crap.
I sympathise with some people who felt that certain comments were out of order. I think that they affected the way many people read your original post. I’m happy to apologise to anyone who was offended by my comment (and SW and Aja for any harsh responses it contributed to).
well, this remind me of me when I was in Europe and was working and the lady at RH said to a worworker of mine “we could have kept her if she was not too ethnic”, I am from north africa, berber, personally, that was racism because the context in itself is racist. I was sick to my stomach. since when my skills are related to my race.
However, it’s silly to say that somebody is racist when they point out the obvious, it is not racism, a black person is black etc..but the context in which we talk about race can be called racism. In this case it is not racism, it is a constation ..I noticed some men who love asian girls, that is their taste and in no way we should judge them for that, it’s like men who love bigger girls, thank god there are men like that otherwise we would be so uniform.
for my part, I have a problem with the blog trend. I myself started a blog and I am conflicted as to why did I open it? do I want to share ideas with people? do I want people to notice me? I know it is not for money, but why did I open it? I am starting to question my self-esteem
take care, love u
Re: German=Nazi, Irish=redhead etc: I’m Polish, so I drink nothing but vodka, I’m stoopid (see: Polish jokes), I’m Catholic and I personally knew the previous Pope, just like everyone else in Poland. Yeah, right.
We are really at a fucked up point though.. racism happens. People who experience racism in their lives, and then go online and find themselves being grouped – by strangers – by race.. can be understood if they feel racially attacked and hurt about that, no? And then they see commenters deriding them and their blogs, and mocking the attractiveness of their husbands, making mail order bride jokes, etc.
@Claire – I’d say that we’re at a fucked up point when just commenting somewhere..even if you don’t say anything that could be taken as offensive…is license for someone to go to your blog, call you fat and ugly, and then for that person to go back to the comment section and tell that same person (remember…the SAME one who didn’t say anything offensive in the first place) and tell her to wash her pussy before commenting.
Last I checked, that wasn’t responding “in kind.” That’s being psychotic. Or e-thuggin’ as I prefer to call it.
Claire, there was nothing “in kind” about her response. If I recall my comments said nothing about her being a mail order bride or whatever. I did note that she likes to pose and that her husband is bald. But there’s nothing wrong with any of those things. I maintain my strong stance on that. As someone in an interracial relationship, I have no right to judge others based upon it (in truth, no one does . . . your relationship is your own). Now her response . . . that was unkind. Uncouth. Downright gross. But it’s cool, she’s not my mother . . . but poor Freddie’s instead!
It would literally be the equivalent of me going to your blog and leaving a bunch of random, irrelevant, anonymous, racist comments to you simply because your view is different than mine. See my point?
I’m Serbian, I have Kalashnikov hidden in my hear, platforms filled with heroine, bombs in my bra, I hate all world, but mostly other Serbs. Not to forget, whole world is against me.
Lipstick credit MUFE 42.
When you are white and people call you out on doing something racist its unnecessary and a bit innapropriate to provide a lengthy, self aggrandising defense of what you did.
Sister W you need a forum so that people can take their comments/asides/word-wars and whatever – somewhere else to polish and indulge in to their hearts content. Also some really long ladders for some people to get over themselves.
And links to good drama classes.
I feel no need to itemise my toilette or the stereotype to which I conform 🙂
However, mmmmm … lipstick.
Lipstick credit : Lancome La Laque Fever, Electric Pink.
Alyssa, I don’t get your comment at all. Firstly, I repeat one more time, SW DID NOT SAY anything racist; she did not need any defense. Secondly – is a white person accused of racism supposed to just swallow it quietly and not say anything? Maybe also hang down her head in shame? Why would that be – because she’s white? Doesn’t it strike you as racist?
Don’t you just love how people are quick to jump on the “racist” platform? I am one of the women Sister Wolf wrote about but I’m not offended by being called a “Wealthy Asian Mom Blogger” (trust me when I tell you there are worse things in life to be called. So why are you? I found the hateful comments to be more offensive than anything she wrote.
She made an observation, and she blogged about it. When I see ridiculously expensive bags made of scraps of left over fabric/leather/fur bits, I am also compelled to point out the obvious. We all blog for different reasons– some people do it to entertain themselves and share their random thoughts. If you think they are hurtful or inaccurate you can reach out to them in a civilized manner, as I did with Sister Wolf. Leaving nasty comments never solve anything.
As for me, I started blogging about bags for fun with my best friend when we left our careers in fashion and entertainment industries to become stay at home moms. If you go through Bagsnob.com, you’ll see it’s all about bags– the good, the bad and the ugly.
But I digress. Let us examine the facts of her entry that caused such an uproar:
Am I an Asian mom married to an older white male? Yes (He’s not that much older btw, his “Caucasian” genetics just have not fared as well as my “Chinese” ones)
Do I love to travel? Yes.
Do I adore my child? Yes.
Do I spend my days posing for photos and taking photos of my child to share on my blogs? No.
In the 5+ years of blogging, I have NEVER posted a single photo of my young son or my husband on any of my blogs and I rarely post photos of myself (I save that for my personal Facebook page & sometimes Twitter). But I’m not judging mom bloggers who post photos of themselves posing in their pretty clothes with their cute kids.
I am just not that type of blogger.
Please do not judge others for their choices in life– there is beauty in everything and everyone. I was a junior at USC during the LA riots of 1992 (yes, I’m that old) and witnessed true racist hate crimes against humanity firsthand. Sister Wolf’s entry doesn’t even come close.
In the words of Rodney King: “Can’t we all just get along?”.
BagSnobTina -You’re right: You don’t post pix of your kid or your husband and I have removed those photos accordingly. I wish I could see the beauty in everything. I will try harder. But I don’t think I’ll ever see the beauty of people like Mr. Freddie’s mom. I’m not christ, for godsake.
I’m glad we were able to learn more about each other, BagsnobTina. xo
Sister, I did not find anything even remotely offensive about your post. You did not use the word “Oriental” as a lot of ignorant people often do, and all of your other observations were just pointing out the obvious. I love Sister’s blog because it has the power to make panties twist like nothing else.
@Sister Wolf – I feel the same! xo PS(I’m calling you Sister Lamb from now on)
@Aja- Thank you and I look forward to learning more about you.
I do have one more thing to say, I find it amusing that some of the commenters assume that older husbands have to buy things for their younger wives to keep them happy.
Other than flowers and birthday/Christmas gifts, the only thing my husband buys me is dinner (and chocolates when I’m being nice). I buy what I want, when I want, and I pay for my own shopping habits. Sure he’s provided a nice life at home for our family so I don’t have to worry about putting food on the table but I work hard and and will continue to work until I’m unable to do so.
Financial independence is the key to a happy marriage my friends, older or younger husband.
Now, let’s move on to this duckling topic, I prefer mine with plum sauce. You?
Sister, it wasn’t your post itself I found offensive or racist, but some of the comments (which, as you said, were made by other people).
The nutty mummy blogger troll who went after Aja is nuttier than a fruitcake- she proved it beyond all doubt, and I feel sad for her son if she gets to pass on that particular set of views to him.
Bag Snob Tina- honestly, I thought the comments about older husbands buying stuff were out of line though it’s nice of you to take the high road and be amused by them.
Your family’s finances really aren’t any of our business and you aren’t obliged to explain things if you don’t want to, even if I am in complete agreement on the subject of financial independence.
“I do have one more thing to say, I find it amusing that some of the commenters assume that older husbands have to buy things for their younger wives to keep them happy.”
IA, Tina. I also find it amusing that most people assume that, if an older and/or unattractive man has a younger wife (i.e. my husband and me), he MUST be rich. Or a pimp. We get this all the time in public (along with the father/daughter thing). Is it so inconceivable that an age gap couple could actually be in love? Don’t marriage vows include the promise “to love … for richer or poorer”? I take my vows very seriously and literally. Not on a high horse here, just being honest.
Equally amusing were the commenters in that post who scrambled to back up interracial age gap couples (who they don’t even know) when I (a white woman) receive(d) endless flack about being married to a (white) man 32 years my senior. I don’t take this criticism to heart; it is to be expected and not taken seriously. I just found it interesting that an interracial age gap couple is to be vehemently defended, while a white age gap couple is fair game for ridicule and various accusations. I’m not fishing for approbation — obviously, by posting pictures online of us as a couple I anticipate any sort of disapproval and mockery. I’ve been accustomed to it for years and it only makes me chuckle. I’m just making an observation.
To advocate an interracial age gap couple and renounce a white age gap couple is discrimination. It illustrates that whoever takes this stance views the two couples as unequal, even if it is subconsciously. Correct me if I am wrong, but the pillar of tolerance is equality. People who try too hard to not be racist and leap to defend anyone who is not white are the most racist of all.
It does not piss me off when I am browbeaten online. Everyone is entitled to their opinion and free speech. This is why I don’t screen/delete comments on my own blog and normally I would not take the time or care enough to reply here, but Sister’s posts just compel people to join in on these virtual debates 😉
Sister Wolf,
I cannot believe you would make fun of ducklings. Please leave the ducklings alone. It is coincidence that they have been in movies lately. The ducklings have been exploited enough. Damnit, I don’t even think you are supposed to call them ducklings anymore! Please stop the hate.
xoxox,
Ash
ash -OOPS! I meant The Duckling Community, of course.
You know…I noticed early on that people were going off on all kinds of tangents when you didn’t even say anything remotely incendiary. So strange…
Maybe people just come here to vent? Or to try and sound smart? Or to flex their insult muscles? Or to use the word “vitriol?” Or to talk about how jealous people are. Who knows?
And I think they prefer to be called “young ducks” instead of “ducklings.” Apparently it’s now a pejorative term.
I just watched this with my friend and we cracked up. Free to kiss your ass. I’m not too harmed by Freddie’s Mom. If anything she should be worried. That’s not the type of behavior a mother should be displaying. Then again most Mom’s don’t run around in booty shorts . . .
Holy shit. I just returned to my computer after a little hiatus…and came across this whole fiasco!
I watched the video first (feeling you as always SW), and then educated myself with a perusal of original post + comments. Wow. I had to ask myself if the comments would have gone quite where they did without Leisl’s initial choice of words? That isn’t a criticism of Leisl, either, just wondering if the specificity of the reference to ‘mail order brides’ might have been enough to take the conversation into a territory that the original post itself doesn’t. (?)
Anyway, when handled in the articulate and well-reasoned manner always forthcoming chez SW the whole racist (really? really?!) accusation quickly looses steam. The only racist aroma wafting around that post is the smell of batshit crazy from Mr Fanny’s Goat or whoever the fuck she is. Her comment horrified me on so many levels. I’m opting not to check out her blog or the other two…giving my eyeballs and my psyche a pass on this one. I just don’t need to know anything about these people, and in this case I’m not even curious.
The up-side of this debacle? We are rewarded with an always-awesome SW video! Ha! Take that Mr Fanny’s Goat!
THANK YOU for this timely message. WHEN did the words “Asian” or “Mexican” become racist?! My jaw is still agape at what Mr Freddy’s Mom said to Aja. Absolutely unreal and so so sad. Nothing that anyone (including Aja) said should have elicited a response like that. She should be ashamed.
Unrelated to the content of your video: your new nose rings looks great.
I saw nothing racist about Sister Wolf’s observations on the “wealthy Asian mom blogger” phenomenon. I was, however, taken aback and quite disgusted by the comment made by Mr. Freddie’s Mom. Her attack on Aja showed a total lack of class that no amount of money can buy.
I’m an Asian woman with an M.B., B.S. (who has since retired from practice, as has my uterus) who is married to a less educated Caucasian man five years my senior. I don’t need an older, rich, white, bald and fat husband to give me a sense of identity or buy me designer goods and take me on expensive holidays when I have a poor, working-class one who washes the dishes (by hand) and makes me a D-I-Y shoe stretcher like this one:
http://freespace.virgin.net/firey.fox/stretch.htm
because I bought a pair of Doc Martens boots on eBay a size too small, forgetting that my shoe size may have increased since my last pair of Docs in the early nineties. If that isn’t true love, I don’t know what is.
We’re a match made in heaven because we’re so alike – frugal and tight-fisted. He’s Swedish with a distinctive Smalandian streak (how irresistible is that?!) in him and I’m Hakka Chinese (aka the “Jews of Asia”). All you wealthy Asian mom bloggers can kiss my ass because conspicuous consumerism is so passé. Minimalism and asceticism is where it’s at!
Carrie -HAhaha, Mr. Fanny’s Goat is a keeper.
Another old biddy – Well, we’ve offered up two asses to kiss, no one can say we’re stingy. And the shoe stretcher thing is indeed a love offering like no other. I want my husband to make me one.
I love your blog and come here for the writing, which is generally concise and biting. Your videos lack the first of these qualities. Stop filming, keep writing!
Thrift store lawyer – Now see here, madam, you clearly have no appreciation for red lipstick! I’ll try to think before I start recording, next time.
Personaly I have not come across any of these blogs but they sound like they would bore me. Sometimes political correctness goes too far.
Listening to your description of Jewish people though.. I think I may be Jewish.. I have a Jewish name and that is all ..maybe in a past life.. I am certainly of type ..even down to the hair xx
good grief, you got to work one day and have a sick child the next (guilty of gratuitous child in duvet pics on blog) and you find out all hell has broken loose!
I couldn’t believe it that comment was vile. Why are there all these mad vile hater types in the US on the internet. It was shocking..
What is more shocking though is that Aja was worried about her saying Daddy in a British accent. I think she should do a vlog saying it! Aja come on you’ll be fab. Thanks to you I’ve now decided to watch Gentlemen Prefer Blondes for the 100th time and think I’m going to call Mr MDS ‘Daddy’ all day.
Imagine if I wore short shorts as well – would that be trending or just obscene. I’m happy to embrace all manner of stereo types.
I douched before I logged on so I feel well qualified to speak here. What sort of a shit rebuttal did that woman leave! I was speechless. Way to prove your moronity wealthy asian mum blogger.
From a stereotypically drunk sunburnt Australian follower of SW, now if you will excuse me I have to go wrestle a croc.
I like Another Old Biddy!
Another old biddy- you’re awesome!
Mr. Freddie’s Mom- wow, you REALLY fucked up there, you silly fucking twat!
Aja- You are a model of dignity. Talk about taking the high road. I need lessons.
SW: well said, as always.
This is my first time posting here, and I just feel very strongly about this topic and would like to share my opinion:
Sister, this is YOUR blog and you are allowed to write about whatever you feel- it’s a little something called freedom of thought and freedom of speech. This applies to anything you feel needs to be commented on, and no body should be condemning you for exercising this right!
I happened to read the article about Asian Mom bloggers and I never thought it was racist or prejudiced. You were just pointing out something that was interesting, and it was for others to take at face value. It was other readers who misread between the lines and made it something it was not. While I wasn’t interested in the topic personally, I wasn’t in any way offended or uncomfortable reading this FACT. It was other people who entered hate and racism.
I am of the sound mind that people judge others on what they themselves initially think when they read something. That being said, I feel that it’s everyone else who condemned you for being prejudiced that are the racists! I like your blog a lot even though I’m not ‘fashion-inclined’- you always inspire me!
PS: I am a German-Canadian and I am proud to tell people this fact. As a result, I get called a Nazi and crap like that. My family moved to Canada on 1902, BEFORE the world wars, and so god damn! I never get pissed though, because that’s a stereotype Germans have been fighting for ages, and historically we are a loud, brutish people. I am a perfect example!
Another Old Biddy, your husband sounds like a treasure. Nothing beats a sweet homemade gift.
Make Do Style – When I lived in London I tried so hard not to pick up the British accent. Don’t get me wrong, I love it . . . but an American with a British accent quickly becomes the butt of all jokes, I’m looking at you, Madonna and Gwyneth Paltrow.
“It used to be easy for moguls to flaunt their power. All they had to do was renovate the chalet in St. Moritz, buy the latest Gulfstream (GD) jet, lay off 5,000 employees, or marry a much younger Asian woman.” (Joel Stein)
http://www.businessweek.com/magazine/content/10_46/b4203103862097.htm
xoxoxoxo
SW, please, don’t muzzle yourself. The only obviously racist person in the discussion happens to be Mrs. Freddie’s Mom. I’m glad that your ass is still available for kissing.
I’m deeply impressed by Mr. Another Old Biddy and his shoe stretcher.
My first instinct was to wrap myself in a green sheet and pose with the shoe storage system I made myself, with no rich husband. It houses my 200 pairs of shoes which i bought for my self.
All that silly soft porn posing is funny people.
And I am irish, so i must be a red haired, trouble making bankrupt drunk. I am probably guilty as charged.
and mmmmmhmmmmmm ass smooching.
The notion that some people would take offense to the civil discussion that was taking place far away from their turf is beyond my understanding. When you make your life’s content a part of the public domain, that content is subject to appraisal by the public. Such appraisal may not be limited to praise. You may disagree with some of the responses elicited by your posted material; these are just some products of critical thinking. However, resorting to racist slurs and hateful speech undermines your intelligence(?) greatly and makes you look like quite the fool.
I only got through a third of the video because I was too mesmerized by that slash of red (and, uh, because I think you come off better in print, like a lot of writers). I truly envy people who can pull off bombshell lipstick. Makes me want to throw out my pile of prissy MAC pinks and start over. But red lipstick always looks too try-hard on me – my personal theory is that it has to do with bone structure (or the lack thereof).
I had to back and catch up on the comment action. I can’t believe the response from Mr Freddy’s Mom. Aja – I am so sorry that you had put up with that ignorant crap.
I sympathise with some people who felt that certain comments were out of order. I think that they affected the way many people read your original post. I’m happy to apologise to anyone who was offended by my comment (and SW and Aja for any harsh responses it contributed to).
P.S. I had a shower this morning – will that do?
well, this remind me of me when I was in Europe and was working and the lady at RH said to a worworker of mine “we could have kept her if she was not too ethnic”, I am from north africa, berber, personally, that was racism because the context in itself is racist. I was sick to my stomach. since when my skills are related to my race.
However, it’s silly to say that somebody is racist when they point out the obvious, it is not racism, a black person is black etc..but the context in which we talk about race can be called racism. In this case it is not racism, it is a constation ..I noticed some men who love asian girls, that is their taste and in no way we should judge them for that, it’s like men who love bigger girls, thank god there are men like that otherwise we would be so uniform.
for my part, I have a problem with the blog trend. I myself started a blog and I am conflicted as to why did I open it? do I want to share ideas with people? do I want people to notice me? I know it is not for money, but why did I open it? I am starting to question my self-esteem
take care, love u
Re: German=Nazi, Irish=redhead etc: I’m Polish, so I drink nothing but vodka, I’m stoopid (see: Polish jokes), I’m Catholic and I personally knew the previous Pope, just like everyone else in Poland. Yeah, right.
Somehow I am never around when all hell breaks loose. I find out about it after the fact!
What do you have against ducklings? It’s because they’re YELLOW, right? Racist.
Whoops, I forgot to take a whore’s bath before I wrote this comment.
We are really at a fucked up point though.. racism happens. People who experience racism in their lives, and then go online and find themselves being grouped – by strangers – by race.. can be understood if they feel racially attacked and hurt about that, no? And then they see commenters deriding them and their blogs, and mocking the attractiveness of their husbands, making mail order bride jokes, etc.
No excuse for attacking in kind, of course.
@Claire – I’d say that we’re at a fucked up point when just commenting somewhere..even if you don’t say anything that could be taken as offensive…is license for someone to go to your blog, call you fat and ugly, and then for that person to go back to the comment section and tell that same person (remember…the SAME one who didn’t say anything offensive in the first place) and tell her to wash her pussy before commenting.
Last I checked, that wasn’t responding “in kind.” That’s being psychotic. Or e-thuggin’ as I prefer to call it.
Annnnd, I fucked up all of my pronouns…but I’m sure you get what I was trying to say.
HARAMBEE!
Lipstick credit? heaven! Yes.. I read those comments and they were repulsive.
Claire, there was nothing “in kind” about her response. If I recall my comments said nothing about her being a mail order bride or whatever. I did note that she likes to pose and that her husband is bald. But there’s nothing wrong with any of those things. I maintain my strong stance on that. As someone in an interracial relationship, I have no right to judge others based upon it (in truth, no one does . . . your relationship is your own). Now her response . . . that was unkind. Uncouth. Downright gross. But it’s cool, she’s not my mother . . . but poor Freddie’s instead!
It would literally be the equivalent of me going to your blog and leaving a bunch of random, irrelevant, anonymous, racist comments to you simply because your view is different than mine. See my point?
I’m Serbian, I have Kalashnikov hidden in my hear, platforms filled with heroine, bombs in my bra, I hate all world, but mostly other Serbs. Not to forget, whole world is against me.
Lipstick credit MUFE 42.
When you are white and people call you out on doing something racist its unnecessary and a bit innapropriate to provide a lengthy, self aggrandising defense of what you did.
Sister W you need a forum so that people can take their comments/asides/word-wars and whatever – somewhere else to polish and indulge in to their hearts content. Also some really long ladders for some people to get over themselves.
And links to good drama classes.
I feel no need to itemise my toilette or the stereotype to which I conform 🙂
However, mmmmm … lipstick.
Lipstick credit : Lancome La Laque Fever, Electric Pink.
in my oh my hair…. that’s it.
Alyssa, I don’t get your comment at all. Firstly, I repeat one more time, SW DID NOT SAY anything racist; she did not need any defense. Secondly – is a white person accused of racism supposed to just swallow it quietly and not say anything? Maybe also hang down her head in shame? Why would that be – because she’s white? Doesn’t it strike you as racist?
Don’t you just love how people are quick to jump on the “racist” platform? I am one of the women Sister Wolf wrote about but I’m not offended by being called a “Wealthy Asian Mom Blogger” (trust me when I tell you there are worse things in life to be called. So why are you? I found the hateful comments to be more offensive than anything she wrote.
She made an observation, and she blogged about it. When I see ridiculously expensive bags made of scraps of left over fabric/leather/fur bits, I am also compelled to point out the obvious. We all blog for different reasons– some people do it to entertain themselves and share their random thoughts. If you think they are hurtful or inaccurate you can reach out to them in a civilized manner, as I did with Sister Wolf. Leaving nasty comments never solve anything.
As for me, I started blogging about bags for fun with my best friend when we left our careers in fashion and entertainment industries to become stay at home moms. If you go through Bagsnob.com, you’ll see it’s all about bags– the good, the bad and the ugly.
But I digress. Let us examine the facts of her entry that caused such an uproar:
Am I an Asian mom married to an older white male? Yes (He’s not that much older btw, his “Caucasian” genetics just have not fared as well as my “Chinese” ones)
Do I love to travel? Yes.
Do I adore my child? Yes.
Do I spend my days posing for photos and taking photos of my child to share on my blogs? No.
In the 5+ years of blogging, I have NEVER posted a single photo of my young son or my husband on any of my blogs and I rarely post photos of myself (I save that for my personal Facebook page & sometimes Twitter). But I’m not judging mom bloggers who post photos of themselves posing in their pretty clothes with their cute kids.
I am just not that type of blogger.
Please do not judge others for their choices in life– there is beauty in everything and everyone. I was a junior at USC during the LA riots of 1992 (yes, I’m that old) and witnessed true racist hate crimes against humanity firsthand. Sister Wolf’s entry doesn’t even come close.
In the words of Rodney King: “Can’t we all just get along?”.
Peace.
BagSnobTina -You’re right: You don’t post pix of your kid or your husband and I have removed those photos accordingly. I wish I could see the beauty in everything. I will try harder. But I don’t think I’ll ever see the beauty of people like Mr. Freddie’s mom. I’m not christ, for godsake.
I’m glad we were able to learn more about each other, BagsnobTina. xo
Alyssa – You need a better lipstick.
Sister, I did not find anything even remotely offensive about your post. You did not use the word “Oriental” as a lot of ignorant people often do, and all of your other observations were just pointing out the obvious. I love Sister’s blog because it has the power to make panties twist like nothing else.
Bag Snob Tina has won me over and over and over again. She’s one clever lady.
@Sister Wolf – I feel the same! xo PS(I’m calling you Sister Lamb from now on)
@Aja- Thank you and I look forward to learning more about you.
I do have one more thing to say, I find it amusing that some of the commenters assume that older husbands have to buy things for their younger wives to keep them happy.
Other than flowers and birthday/Christmas gifts, the only thing my husband buys me is dinner (and chocolates when I’m being nice). I buy what I want, when I want, and I pay for my own shopping habits. Sure he’s provided a nice life at home for our family so I don’t have to worry about putting food on the table but I work hard and and will continue to work until I’m unable to do so.
Financial independence is the key to a happy marriage my friends, older or younger husband.
Now, let’s move on to this duckling topic, I prefer mine with plum sauce. You?
Sister, it wasn’t your post itself I found offensive or racist, but some of the comments (which, as you said, were made by other people).
The nutty mummy blogger troll who went after Aja is nuttier than a fruitcake- she proved it beyond all doubt, and I feel sad for her son if she gets to pass on that particular set of views to him.
Bag Snob Tina- honestly, I thought the comments about older husbands buying stuff were out of line though it’s nice of you to take the high road and be amused by them.
Your family’s finances really aren’t any of our business and you aren’t obliged to explain things if you don’t want to, even if I am in complete agreement on the subject of financial independence.
PS: I like my edible members of the duck family in orange sauce. Though duckling in plum sauce sounds like a good idea too.
“I do have one more thing to say, I find it amusing that some of the commenters assume that older husbands have to buy things for their younger wives to keep them happy.”
IA, Tina. I also find it amusing that most people assume that, if an older and/or unattractive man has a younger wife (i.e. my husband and me), he MUST be rich. Or a pimp. We get this all the time in public (along with the father/daughter thing). Is it so inconceivable that an age gap couple could actually be in love? Don’t marriage vows include the promise “to love … for richer or poorer”? I take my vows very seriously and literally. Not on a high horse here, just being honest.
Equally amusing were the commenters in that post who scrambled to back up interracial age gap couples (who they don’t even know) when I (a white woman) receive(d) endless flack about being married to a (white) man 32 years my senior. I don’t take this criticism to heart; it is to be expected and not taken seriously. I just found it interesting that an interracial age gap couple is to be vehemently defended, while a white age gap couple is fair game for ridicule and various accusations. I’m not fishing for approbation — obviously, by posting pictures online of us as a couple I anticipate any sort of disapproval and mockery. I’ve been accustomed to it for years and it only makes me chuckle. I’m just making an observation.
To advocate an interracial age gap couple and renounce a white age gap couple is discrimination. It illustrates that whoever takes this stance views the two couples as unequal, even if it is subconsciously. Correct me if I am wrong, but the pillar of tolerance is equality. People who try too hard to not be racist and leap to defend anyone who is not white are the most racist of all.
It does not piss me off when I am browbeaten online. Everyone is entitled to their opinion and free speech. This is why I don’t screen/delete comments on my own blog and normally I would not take the time or care enough to reply here, but Sister’s posts just compel people to join in on these virtual debates 😉
xo to everyone
WON’T SOMEONE PLEASE THINK OF THE WHITE WOMEN