This is Tina, from Bag Snob.
This is Mr. Freddie’s Mom, taking a little break.
Here is the Life In Travel lady.
All three bloggers have young children they adore. All three love to travel and pose. And pose. And pose. And all three are blessed with bald older husbands! It’s like a club!
Indulgent husbands, photogenic children, a lust for shopping, high end cameras, and the universal female dream of becoming a pin-up girl. Isn’t it wonderful?
If you know of any other Wealthy Asian Mom Bloggers, let me know. I feel an obsession coming on.
I’ve only got three words to say – mail order brides?
I adore my children, I love to travel, I love to pose… damn the lack of high end camera and bald indulgent husband with lots of money.
Leisl – do you know these women? if not, then stop making snap judgments about Asian women with rich husbands. i am tired of this whole every-asian-woman-with-a-rich-white-husband-is-a-mail-order-bride BS.
One of the reasons I have let my blog slide into near-death is that some freak sent me an email accusing me of copying from Mr Freddy’s Mom. Now I didn’t take that too seriously, for a start my blog started a year before hers, and apart from having sons and being female we have zero in common, but it did alert me to her blog, and that made me feel like it was time to get the hell out of blogging, and time to stop putting my kid online lest anyone else think I regard him as some kind of fashion accessory.
bald older *white* husbands
sorry, but it’s true
Not every-asian-woman-with-a-rich-white-husband-is-a-mail-order-bride – but alot of them are.
Especially the ones that flaunt it.
Just like the ones in the pics.
It’s not a derogatory observation – who can blame them?
Who can blame the bald older rich white husbands too….would you marry them if they weren’t rich?
did I say that out loud?
Sam – “How dare you!”
Skye – Oh Skye, that’s absurd. Your blog could not be more different. I won’t insult you by listing the differences. I’n sorry to hear this.
I wonder what they see in those millionaire bald fat men?
As Sam says “would you marry them if they weren’t rich?”.
Love this photo http://i726.photobucket.com/albums/ww267/lifeintraveling/Sep%20first2%202010/IMG_6041a.jpg
He looks particularly attractive there….!!
I guess at the end of the day, whatever floats their boat. They obviously have to sleep with the guy so if they basically want to be prostitutes without the name that is there choice – and who knows….maybe some of the guys are genuinely nice people? There are a lot of other pros too because the hubbies usually work a LOT so you can have your own thing on the side pretty easily and life is definitely less stressful not having to worry about money (though with the advent of prenupss…probably a bit more stressful if they chose to divorce you). Personally though, I just couldn’t bring myself to sleep with a guy who was fat, bald and plain ugly :S
Now for all we know there could be a big group of ladies out there who go all weak kneed for balding white guys. It could be one of those cultural phenomenom I always find out about too late.
Also ,if I might speak in defence of rich, balding white guys everywhere, I think it’s only fair to point out that becoming rich is a very stressful process and that loosing your hair and six pack is probably inevitable.
I agree that the mail order bride comment was a tad harsh, but really, it’s too big a similarity to ignore.
Mr Freddie’s Mom posing there makes her look like Vanessa from The Haute Pursuit. Though V is about 25 and has no kids that I know of.
I bet Mom of Sea is watching this and planning a dramatic facelift and dye job to try and compete.
i mean – obviously the ‘young hot asian lady’ married to the ‘not-so-hot older caucasian rich man who pays for my fashion obsession’ similarities cannot be ignored. im surprised rupert (murdoch’s) wife doesnt have a blog!
All right, Liesl and other people making comments about ‘mail order brides’ and similar, it’s highly uncomfortable to read you making judgments about the personal lives of people you’ve never met.
Has it occurred to any of you that (shock, horror) these women might actually love their fat older white husbands? For reasons that have nothing o do with money? Stranger things have happened, you know.
meant *to do*, up there, sorry.
Ok, something has gone strange with the comment moderation feature, but the gist of what I had to say was that it’s a little unfair to assume straight off the bat that these ladies don’t love their partners.
And the ‘mail order bride’ comments and assumptions are just cringe-making, the only fashion blogger I’ve known of who was a mail order bride (in her own words) was white and Ukrainian.
First off, have you seen the Real Housewives? This is not a “trend” amongst Asian women – it happens across races.
Second, that mail order bride comment is ridiculous. The mail order bride industry does not leave women in rich households. Generally, they are placed in abusive relationships with men who are not well off financially.
Finally, I have no problem with all the comments against the fat balding men. Haha!
It is a truth universally acknowledged, that a single bald man in possession of a good fortune, must be in want of a hot wife.
So, apparently:
Asian + Hot + um, Attractiveness-Disadvantaged Husband = Mail-Order Bride
But! I presume:
Non-Asian* + Hot + the same = your garden-variety golddigger, not worth the consideration of the ethnographers that apparently populate this forum
*excl. those Russians, of course! Nothing but mail-order brides and/or spies.*
$10 says that their husbands work in the tech field. I do, too, and the “weak-willed engineer with money gets not-quite-brow-beaten into buying everything for and then marrying the out-of-his-league Asian girl” is a huge phenom. Good, because it keeps the uggos off my back when I have to network at conferences.
I say good for them, if they have no regrets then let them indulge. If my man struck it rich, you’d better believe I’d be walking his Visa up and down 5th Ave. (The cat is photogenic enough to spare me the litter of children, though.)
I can’t look. The horror!
I am extremely jealous. Why can’t I have a fat ugly balding husband with loads of money instead of a slim hot full head of hair one with..um…a modest income?
Life if just so unfair.
Little girls should not grow up to be little girls
I read Life in Travel. I like her. Yes she’s married to a wealthy white man, but why is that of anyone’s concern? It’s shameful to make judgments of their relationship. It shouldn’t matter how any of these women afford their luxury clothes because even if they are portraying an unrealistic lifestyle, it is THEIR real lives. For Life in Travel, I don’t feel she is “flaunting” anything more than what most other style bloggers do. She has a mostly high-end wardrobe but her blog is just how she chooses to share her passion for something. I am a 17 year-old Asian-American female. The comments about the mail order brides are so ridiculous. I hope the people writing those comments are not older than I am because it would be pathetic for a teenager to have more decency and respect.
Oh god Joanne, this is so fuckin funny! Unfortunately I do not qualify for the club … I have a young child I adore, I have an older husband but he is not bald, nor am I Asian or wealthy. I read Life In Travel lady because I like most of her wardrobe and I think she puts things together decently. I don’t think I’ve heard of the others. Thanks for the LOL though 😀
I think I just threw up a little in my mouth reading some of the comments.
as someone who has been referred to as ‘a little china doll,’ I wholeheartedly support mail order bride assumptions because frankly, it’s not fiction. this shit happens all over the planet.
so for all intensive purposes, indulge in the snark and be judgy…after all, isn’t that why we’re all here??
as a certified half-asian, i approve this message.
Okay, I took a look at their blogs and I don’t see how the first one (Bag Snob) made the list. Yes, she’s Asian, wealthy, and a mom, but she’s not a mom blogger. Her blog looks to be a series of, ahem, “advertorials” for bags (obvs) and other luxury goods.
The only gal among the three who appears to really fit the bill is the second (Freddy’s Mom). There’s not a camera angle the lady doesn’t like and not a shoot that can’t be improved by the use of her son as a prop.
More ubiquitous than any particular trend: “breaking” stories about that trend, relying on vague and ill-defined yet definitely statistically-significant population samples (see: New York Times on its slow news days).
I thought Bag Snob and Life in Travel were the same person!
I am an asian female, and this is precisely why I refuse to (no longer) date older balding white men.
I’m destined to become Average Income Asian Mom – maybe not even a ‘mom’ if my genes tell me I can’t. It’s the curse of both boyfriend and I working in fashion/publishing… can’t say I’m all that bothered about my predicament though.
the real andrea – yes, but only because husbands are alike!
These mail order bride statements are ridiculous. Firstly, all three women show a degree of English proficiency that a mail order bride would probably not possess. From reading their blogs, it sounds like they were raised and educated in a Western country. Most brides who are ‘mail ordered’ come from poor backgrounds with minimal educations and know very little English. Secondly, the assumption that a woman can’t truly about a man because he is bald or unattractive is ridiculous. There are beautiful women all over the world who are in loving, committed relationships with men who are disabled, suffering from severe psychiatric disorders, disfigured by traumatic accident, or otherwise physically unattractive. If you can look at a beautiful white woman in a relationship with a guy who is in a wheelchair and think, “they must be in love,” then I don’t see why you can’t look at a beautiful Asian woman in a relationship with an older and less attractive man and think, “they must be in love.”
It seems people are making mail order bride assumptions because an Asian woman is in a relationship with an older, less attractive man; and, when Asians get into such relationships, then it is because they were purchased and not because they are capable of loving someone for non-superficial characteristics. Or, in short, Asian women are vain, superficial, gold diggers–and, if their significant others aren’t hot then they must be rich because Asians wouldn’t get in relationships for any other reason.
Hopefully, I don’t have to point out how ridiculous and racist these sentiments are.
@Danielle – I’m not super thrilled about the mail-order bride comment, either, but if we keep this strictly in gold-digger territory, then it’s plenty fun to dissect the different stripes of them. Getting hitched to a fat, rich white guy is a lot more dignified than releasing a sex tape with a B-lister pop star like a Kardashian or a Hilton!
Sister Wolf,
What an AMAZING POST! This is exactly why I love reading your blog!
These women stir up feelings in us for different reasons, and in Leisl’s defense, sure writing “mail order bride” is a simplistic phrase, but there IS a feeling that is evoked within us that has obviously started this discussion.
Without delving into each blog obsessively, is it safe to say that each of these women live a lifestyle that does not include a “regular” job (besides the job of caring for children)?
Is that what strikes a cord as most of us struggle and attempt to balance our lives?
I think I can pinpoint what bothers me, personally, and it has to do with modernity and motherhood…in particular the exhibitionism of people’s lives that historically would have been private family snapshots.
We all have the ability to share with the world thanks to this modern technology, but I still think as old-fashioned as it may seem that people should be judged by their content. Anyone can share fluff.
I love the Artful Lawyer’s comment – brilliant Austen-isation!
So is also safe to say that the blonde Amazonian trophy wives of older balding rich white men are so stupid and vapid that they cannot string two words together to create a blog showcasing their luxurious lifestyle? Also, can we also assume they are too busy being a dumb blonde that they cannot be bothered with taking care for their children without a nanny?
Do people seriously read this shit? I mean, seriously? I spent about 45 seconds on the Freddy Mom blog or whatever it was called before I started to break into a cold sweat. I could care less if she is Asian, but I think this lady deserves every sexist slur that may float her way. I can’t believe some women not only think it’s OK, but ENVIABLE, to live life doing as little as possible for themselves, and that the greatest achievement in a woman’s life (besides finding a husband that will do everything but flush the toilet for them) is to have hundreds of cute photos of yourself.
I don’t agree that the English proficiency is so glaring, especially on Mr. Freddy’s mom, which I just visited for the first time:
“The proud Dad, taking photographs of Mr.Freddy pretending to pose like it was candid. We are so blessed to have him- a person whom we truly call Daddy who never get tired taking infinite photographs for our blog.”
I dunno about you guys, but my mother never called my father “Daddy”, she called him by his name. That’s just a little too close to the whole Woody Allen/stepdaughter thing.
I can’t believe the “mail order bride” comment has drawn such criticism. Most people would make some sort of assumption like that when they see a beautiful young woman spending vast sums of her fat and bald husband’s money. The “racism” didn’t occur to me. Anna Nicole did.
Ahahahahaha!! SW, once again you’ve pissed off a lot of people and have so many jumping to the defense of bloggers they don’t personally know! LMAO.
My sister, who likes her men to be tall, bald and to “look like serial killers” (think Vin Diesel), married her “ideal”, so to speak. Except now that I’ve shown her this post she’s pissed off that she could have had a white, bald, RICH guy. Thanks to you, SW, she’s now unhappy with her middle-middle class husband and would like to trade up to one just as bald and white but with a fortune (and, based on the photos, that fortune comes with a lot of extra pounds). She will insist on being called a Russian trophy wife.
Ah jeez. I never felt the mail order bride comment was meant to be taken as anything other than a joke. Get over it, folks. This blog is proudly powered by WordPress and snark. Always has been.
OK – I’m going to really stir the pot and offend people here. WHY THE UGLY SHOES?
I’m sorry – but the hooker shooties/clodhopper look so prevalent on “fashion” blogs is FRICKING UGLY ON EVERYONE. If you have money – obtain some taste!
I’m done.
the second picture is just too funny! her expression is hilarious
Ann, I was going to say the EXACT same thing…ok, not exact, but similar.
Remember where you are folks…
can’t . . . stop . . . reading . . . these. . . horrible . . . blogs . . .
thanks, sw, I just lost an hour of my life!
can somebody please read this post:
http://momfashionworld.blogspot.com/2010/10/hubby-handy-man_21.html
and tell me that I’m not crazy for finding it hilarious in several different ways?
sorry for the double post, but I just keep finding more of them. somebody stop me, please!! this is what happens when you’re at the airport on thanksgiving with a 3 hours layover…
http://momdaughterstyle.blogspot.com/2010/03/hes-one.html
(this one has a daughter, and is filipina, but variety is the spice of life, right?)
http://myprincecoi.blogspot.com/2010/08/what-if.html
(OMG OMG OMG PRICELESS. I AM LAUGHING IN THE AIRPORT LOUNGE AND EVERYONE IS STARING AT ME)
Man I’m going to hell.
ok I checked out Freddy’s Mom and this is what I found really disturbing:
http://momfashionworld.blogspot.com/2010/07/his-toy-story-bubble-bath-mommas-outfit.html
obvs it’s her prerogative but I personally would never post photos of my son with his doo-dad mere centimeters out of view … clearly this bitch does not watch Law and Order SVU. The internet is the pile of shit on which pedophilic flies from all nations swarm & feed. Let your kid share his bathtime online of his own accord if he chooses to do so as an adult.
ooh, this is a fave
http://cereza72.wordpress.com/2009/05/13/the-man-has-many-faces/
Make Do – Hahahahaha, I love Artful Lawyer!
Lezzies – I used “trending” facetiously, just so you know. I hate those fake modern gerunds or whatever they are.
Nicole – Yep, I think there’s a lot here to dissect and discuss.
“modern gerunds” haha – I wish there was a like button for half of these comments. especially annemarie’s.