This is Tina, from Bag Snob.
This is Mr. Freddie’s Mom, taking a little break.
Here is the Life In Travel lady.
All three bloggers have young children they adore. All three love to travel and pose. And pose. And pose. And all three are blessed with bald older husbands! It’s like a club!
Indulgent husbands, photogenic children, a lust for shopping, high end cameras, and the universal female dream of becoming a pin-up girl. Isn’t it wonderful?
If you know of any other Wealthy Asian Mom Bloggers, let me know. I feel an obsession coming on.
To AJA- Now I am being racist! Put your self when SW tagged you as Wealthy BLACK Mom Bloggers. LOL! Ugly FAT woman! You are a cunt! Wash your pussy before you post a comment!
Oh Jesus. Happy Thanksgiving, everyone (even you, Black Aja)!
PS- Does anyone know how to make sense of that comment? (Silence). Okay, that’s what I thought.
well..i think you’re classy and gorgeous, aja.
Correction, Happy Thanksgiving, everyone (even you, Black Aja/Freddie’s Mom). That whole “Anonymous” thing really doesn’t work out so well when you have the same IP address as YOUR HUSBAND who identified himself as YOUR HUSBAND (of course Sister Wolf and I talked and compared the evidence). You’re really not too clever. And RACIST to boot. Now, stop leaving nasty, racial slurs on my blog. I’ve never felt inclined to comment on your blog and you probably don’t want me to start because I’m pretty fired up right now . . .
Thanks Kirsten! You stay classy and have a fantastic holiday 😉
“Black Aja” is apparently Mr. Freddie’s Mom, as the racist comment here and on Aja’s blog came from the same computer as the comment from her husband.
It makes me very sad that such hatred exists, and in particular that it is aimed at my friend Aja.
When you attack Aja, Mr. Freddy’s Mom, you reveal your true temperament and compromise whatever dignity you might have.
I hope you can understand how deeply hateful and inappropriate your words are. I hope you will try to make amends to Aja, who did nothing to provoke your attack.
fuck’s sake. i was going to be all “love’s love, doesn’t always make sense to other people” & “i know it looks kind of weird and startling and we usually jump to assumptions, but even really superficial women find husbands” etc
(even though i used to read life in travel)
Now I’m disgusted by this ‘Mr Freddie’s Mom’ idiot. What a racist, stupid, anus of a man. Aja you’re gorgeous and your blog is wonderful, with so many touching posts. I hope you have a wonderful thanksgiving.
i’m sorry for making remarks on hallie and husband’s smoking habit, altough i’m glad that she pointed out that they aren’t smoking in presence of their child, so it is not harming him.
in the end, it is none of my business, so i should have stayed out of it and not be judging.
it also distracted from what i tried to point out: how sad it is that the sighting of a naked or halfnaked kid triggers fear of phedophiles enjoying those pictures. how far have we come?
btw, the most disturbing thing in this whole discussing is the black aja comment. i cannot understand why someone thinks or acts like that…
ellio100 – Just to clarify – The “Black Aja” attack is from the wife/blogger, not her husband, who has a better command of English as per his comment. But yep. it’s disgusting.
hilda – Well, thank you for giving it more though and sorry if I snapped at you. You have a good point about the pix. It reminds me of how pre-school teachers stopped letting kids sit on their laps, in fear of being charged with a crime. It’s hard to know where to draw the line re protecting our kids.
That crazy racist comment is indeed shocking. I don’t even know how to handle it…
SW – Thanks for setting me straight.
I’ve no idea how you deal with such comments either. It’s just shocking that people can be so stupid and hateful.
This is actually funny.
But I don’t see how bag snob got generalized with this group. Her site doesn’t flaunt photos of herself. I’ve seen her on tv and she is articulate and intelligent. I also read she has a business degree from USC. But I guess you had to add her because she is the only one in this post that is high profile enough to get your post attention.
Aja – Your story about the alarm clocks made me LOL.
SW – That nonsense (and gross) ‘BlackAja’ comment, can you just take it down, there’s proof enough that this Freddy Mom lady went off the deep end, kthx.
Thanks must be said for some entertaining scandal on Thanksgiving!
Hallie, maybe just don’t post the smoking pics on your blog and avoid all controversy – you must understand why some people would flip about this no matter where the kid is when you are smoking. And just to add an extra judgy bit here – I hope you aren’t breastfeeding. This comes from a guilt-ridden ex-smoker mom who quit while pregnant and stayed quit for 5 years and now can’t stop. It sucks, I feel shame, we should all quit. But ya, early mom-hood ain’t easy.
Kendra – I don’t see how including her would “get attention.”
eh – Nope, I’m not taking it down. She has outed herself as an unhinged bigot. Let her do some soul-searching.
And again, Hallie isn’t asking for advice here.
I don’t know what’s more offensive, the blog entry with Sister’s observations or the comments. Granted you have a right to blog your thoughts but calling out these three women merely because they are Asian married to older white men seems racist. Love your blog and your uninhibited musings but as an Asian, this blog entry makes me very uncomfortable.
What about women like Georgina Chapman married to pigs like Harvey Weinstein?
Helene – Women married to pigs is another topic, and a good one! These women seemed to me like a “type” just as young white girls blogging about how Goth they are, or nerdy gay guys blogging about sneakers, you know?
It’s not my fault that these bloggers exist! I just noticed them and thought, Oh look!
Maybe there’s a bunch of Mexican women blogging about their grandmas..if I came across them, I’d definitely take notice!
You know what? I wish everyone could just take it down a notch or twelve. Do stereotypes exists? YES!!! And very often they’re (gasp) funny! Satire. Try it sometime. Any Curb Your Enthusiasm fans in the audience? I know plenty of you probably are. Larry David is hilarious. And yes in the show, black woman are often portrayed as abrasive, confrontational but usually down right hilarious. And I see nothing wrong with any of this. Black woman can be abrasive and confrontational . . . but we ladies have a good sense of humor. In actuality, I’m pretty docile and quiet. I only found my voice as of late. And after many years of swallowing my true feelings about some things, I’ve found that I can be confrontational when I feel the need. But no, I never get outraged by Larry David’s fear of Wanda Sykes or when he hooks up with Loretta Black (Vivica A. Fox’s character) iand she chases Susie (his best friend’s pushy abrasive wife). Or how about the black hooker that doesn’t want his and I quote “raggedy ass hot dog”? Just because it’s a stereotype DOES NOT mean that it’s true. But if we can’t poke fun at it and laugh then what do we have left people? Seriously. Now unbunch your panties.
And yes, if Sister Wolf did a feature on black bloggers with white boyfriends and I were included, I would smile and shrug my shoulders. Would it bother me? Absolutely not! I just wish everyone would just take it down a notch. All this outrage is such a buzz kill. Sometimes there’s a reason to be up in arms. But this ain’t one of them.
Aja – I fucking LOVE Curb Your Enthusiasm. Jews, Blacks, incest victims, disabled, lesbians…Larry David is fearless in finding humor in stereotypes and taboo subjects!
I wish people would aim their outrage where it belongs.
@Aja – a cute blog featuring a young interracial married couple is ‘apricot tea’ 🙂
Thanks for responding SW! I went through each of their blogs and have to agree with you about Freddie’s Mom and Lifeintravel. WTF! the poses, the look at me in ugly clothes photos are ridiculous. These two women are definitely a type not to mention they clearly are in need of ESL courses.
That said, I spent the most time on bagsnob and found it completely different from the two aforementioned sites. It was mostly about bags and i didn’t see any “wanna be pin up girl” photos. I actually found it quite fun to read! Thank you for bringing this blog to my attention.
Blog on sister.
The post enumerates some commonalities, but doesn’t really go into what makes these ladyeez different from the rest of the overspending and underemployed fashion bloggers out there – aside from the simple fact of their race, a low-hanging fruit.
Now, if the post had mentioned that Freddy’s Mom has a distinct way of posing that is decidedly NOT favoured by most rickets-stricken fashion bloggers (i.e. smiling and facing the camera, very catalogue, and very “dia” – a Chinese term for the simpering coquettishness many Asian females display) and extrapolated that into, I don’t know, a Grand Unified Theory of Wealthy Asian Mom Bloggers with Mail-Ordered Tendencies, THEN that would show some expert stereotyping skillz.
Otherwise it’s just lazy, man. I mean, like myself and others have mentioned, bagsnob doesn’t even post photos!
Wow. Just read the thread above. What I can’t figure out is the exceedingly hostile but cryptic “wash your pussy before you comment” comment. What does that mean exactly? That her Very Thing has been tainted by a White Man, and therefore she’s not qualified to speak? That’s the only thing I could come up with, and it doesn’t make sense. I mean, unless there’s some self-hatred and postcolonial angst going on…
I do like it as a snappy retort to basically everything, though.
“You can’t take a day off of work! Wash your pussy!”
“You can’t mix whites and colours! Wash your pussy!”
“You can’t run for Senate! Wash your pussy!”
I am really shocked and angered by this post and also the comments. Rupert Murdoch’s wife, Wendy Deng, was a very successful and rich woman in her own right BEFORE she married Rupert Murdoch. She happens to be younger than him and stylish, that does not mean she married him for money. I’m Asian and my partner is white. I am doing a PhD and I met him when he was doing his masters degree. I happen to be young-looking (even though I am older than him) and slim and stylish. I’m not bragging here, people just think I’m much younger than my 33 years. They often think I’m in my early twenties. Asian women get stereotyped in ways that diminish their intelligence and objectifies them sexually ALL THE TIME JUST BECAUSE they happened to have married outside of their race. Stop it or just admit that you are RACIST. Oh, by the way some of you mentioned that you do not like the way those women dress. I agree that they are rather flashy (as are some non-Asian fashion bloggers that also happen to be mothers) and flashy isn’t my taste, but just because they are flashy doesn’t mean that they married for wealth. I know a very flashy women from Singapore who married a Finish man and she owned a shipping company and was RICH and that is how she met her husband (who is also rich). Just stop making ignorant judgements about people.
Whew what a long winded commended! Outrage level high. Wendy Deng is probably NOT the example you want to throw up there of a successful Asian woman. Just read her Wikipedia profile and get back to me. (Doesn’t say anything about her wealth and successes pre-Murdoch marrying). Just sayin’ . . .
I have no idea how the word “comment” became “commended”.
My libarts boyfriend somehow talked me into paying the lion’s share of the rent…I think I’m going to start calling him my mail-order ginger.
wealth is addictive when its someones elses
Tartandtreacly – Well, man, it’s common knowledge that I’m lazy. Good call on that.
I can understand why Angry lady is angry, the ‘mail order bride’ comments starting from the first one are reason enough- and this much is absolutely true:
“Asian women get stereotyped in ways that diminish their intelligence and objectifies them sexually ALL THE TIME JUST BECAUSE they happened to have married outside of their race.”
I really don’t hold the capslock against anyone in this case.
I just went on the Mr.Freedie blog and I am outraged at what one of the commentator in here said about this lady, stating that she deserved to be called sexy names. I found that the blog is more a blog for their son, it is obvious to me that this family loves their son and the blog is dedicated to him. I really don’t see the problem and comparing this blog to the life in travel blog is not right! The Life in Travel blog is dedicated to fashion.
They don’t have the same vibes.
As an Asian woman married to a white guy (full head of hair and thin), I did not find Sister Wolf’s post racist in any way. She made an observation and had the guts to write what was on her mind. I have frequented the blogs she mentioned and numerous others of the same vein and I too thought the same thing. I was so curious to see what Life In Travel’s husband looked like and when I did see, I chuckled. I wouldn’t trade in my handsome, athletic water polo playing scientist husband for wealth beyond my imagination and living life with someone so much older and unattractive to me. Call me vain but it is what it is. I also view these Asian trophy wives with the same fascination as with the tall Amazonian blondes who marry unattractive older wealthy men, with the assumption that the blond Anglo counterparts do not eventually fall in love like the Asian trophy wives do. So once again SW carry on and do what you do best, stir the pot and get people’s panties in a bunch!
yes but you can not call Mr. Freddie’s mom rich, they don’t seem rich like the Life in Travel lady. Mr. freddie’s mom seems to be focused on her son and her family life and she even said she works. I think they just happen to have a decent financial situation. However, when I read teh Life in Travel blog, which I found about 2 days ago, I noticed that that lady ahs a lot of designer clothes and a lot of designer shoes, and she seems so full of herself, like “I bought this and that” who cares? but the Mr.Freddies lady is buying her shoes at gojane and has also regular brand clothes. for me, she seems to like to pose in front of the camera, I just don’t think her intention when opening the blog was to show off like the Life in Travel lady, she seems to travel a lot and shop! If I was in that situation, I would at least give some money to less privileged people, but that’s just me, I tend to feel guilty when I have things…no wonder I am not rich, rich people are very selfish even when they are blessed.
Off topic, but filed under Irritating Blogs,
just the profile description on this asinine blog makes me want to kill:
http://www.howtosurvivelifeinthesuburbs.com/
Oh, and it’s nominated for some kind of award up here in Canada.
I quite like the last lady’s style.
OMG I am so happy that I came back to this post!! Mr. Freddie’s Mom — can’t say that I’m surprised but entertained, YES!
SW, I’m glad you did what you wanted to do with YOUR BLOG and brought this topic up. To be honest…I was thinking the same thing…but I guess that makes me a racist? Oh well. I’ll sort it out in therapy.
Why would you be motivated to publish jealous statements about women that do good in our community. You obviously are interested in using bad press as a tool to get readers…..it never works. Keep positive in your mind and YOU WILL be successful.
Woah look what I missed while on vay-cay!! Oooh-wee!
Godammit I’m Mad lady, your blog name has explained everything about your personality and your lifestyle. You jealous of everyone out there, and nothing will make you happy. I suggest that you close down this blog because it’s really UGLY just like you. SERIOUSLY!
I’m a fan of Life in Travel lady. I’m 17 year and I’ve follow her blog since last year and found that she’s a caring person, a good wife, and a wonderful mother to her two kids and she totally inspire me.
Don’t make any kind of judgment when you don’t know the fact about someone’s life. Gossiping is not healthy for the mind. We are some of the very lucky people that live in this world that have everything and some have completely nothing. I’m just sad to see there are many people in here have nothing better to do than sitting here and type all these negative non sense comments
Overall, I think Life in Travel ( Hanh )’s blog is one of the most inspire blog out there. She has great style, good energy and she’s a SUPER MOM. KEEP IT UP HANH!!!
Also, Mr.Freddy’s Mom, she’s a wonderful day. I adore her blog and think she’s such a sweet person. You guys have no right to trash people. Life in short, think of something beautiful to do.
Remember, when you think positive, good things will come your way. Have a great holidays everyone!
The Scientist’s Wife – xoxo
Carol Nasif – God. Just shut up.
Brunehilda – Well, if you have a billion dollars, you can copy it!
A Fan – It’s people like you who give me the strength to keep blogging. Thanks!
I posted this comment in the Video thread but it’s probably more apropos here.
“Don’t you just love how people are quick to jump on the “racist” platform? I am one of the women Sister Wolf wrote about but I’m not offended by being called a “Wealthy Asian Mom Blogger” (trust me when I tell you there are worse things in life to be called). So why are you? I found the hateful comments to be more offensive than anything she wrote.
She made an observation, and she blogged about it. When I see ridiculously expensive bags made of scraps of left over fabric/leather/fur bits, I am also compelled to point out the obvious. We all blog for different reasons— some people do it to entertain themselves and share their random thoughts. If you think they are hurtful or inaccurate you can reach out to them in a civilized manner, as I did with Sister Wolf. Leaving nasty comments never solve anything.
As for me, I started blogging about bags for fun with my best friend when we left our careers in fashion and entertainment industries to become stay at home moms. If you go through Bagsnob.com, you’ll see it’s all about bags— the good, the bad and the ugly.
But I digress. Let us examine the facts of her entry that caused such an uproar:
Am I an Asian mom married to an older white male? Yes (He’s not that much older btw, his “Caucasian” genetics just have not fared as well as my “Chinese” ones)
Do I love to travel? Yes.
Do I adore my child? Yes.
Do I spend my days posing for photos and taking photos of my child to share on my blogs? No.
In the 5+ years of blogging, I have NEVER posted a single photo of my young son or my husband on any of my blogs and I rarely post photos of myself (I save that for my personal Facebook page & sometimes Twitter). But I’m not judging mom bloggers who post photos of themselves posing in their pretty clothes with their cute kids.
I am just not that type of blogger.
Please do not judge others for their choices in life— there is beauty in everything and everyone. I was a junior at USC during the LA riots of 1992 (yes, I’m that old) and witnessed true racist hate crimes against humanity firsthand. Sister Wolf’s entry doesn’t even come close.
In the words of Rodney King: “Can’t we all just get along?”.
Peace.”
Wow, looks like everyone had comments even Bagsnob and Freddie’s Mom. Well, I’m lifeintravel lady. I don’t have much time for this, but I try.
I understood that SW had her point on ” wealthy Asian mom blogger” who married older, rich white man. As she said, she doesn’t want to hurt anyone; a group of people or individual. But one thing she forgot that she doesn’t know these mom; who they are, their background education, how old they are and their husbands, where and how they met, why they love their husband, and what their blog are about.
My blog is lifeintravel. Ofcousre, I blog about my travel with my family. I have featured my kid’s pictures, but I’ve never mentioned their name, their school…just simply their pictures. So, I don’t think that would be harmful for my kids. I’ve rarely featured my husband’s picture, it’s maybe one or two pics…It’s my choice. As I said in my blog profile, I like to share my travel, food, and my fashion. My blog is something I do for fun beside my busy full time mom (not show off, btw). I like to have my pictures taken for my blog, again, I’m having fun (it’s nothing wrong to have fun. Everyone has different ways to have fun and enjoy their life)
Yes, I married a white man, but not much older than me ( just like Bagsnob’s husband, my husband’s “caucasian” genetics have not fared as well as my “asian” ones) I moved to Dallas 1994 when I had 2 degrees in International marketing and Management (I spent 7 years in university in my country). Two years later, I met my husband at my work in Dallas. After 3 years, I knew him as a friend. 14 months of dating, we married 10 years now. Yes, I’m that old… My shopping habit is bad, but I have 2 girls that I will pass my stuff for them later on. I was lucky to have a great job before I had my kids. My husband also is lucky to have a great job as well. We’re thankful for what we have in our life. Traveling has built apprecitation, positivity toward life. It has also taught us “Outreach and Giving” more, something that I never share in my blog or to people around me. It’s too much our personal to share here, but I think it’s ok. I like to be happy, peace, and have a friendlier world.
Unkind comments are unhealthy, especially if you don’t know much about them, about their life.
Peaceful is a happy and joyful life for everyone.
You guys rock! Sister Wolf, I absolutely love you! All my colleagues find me laughing on my own once in a while and think I have lost it. I however do get disappointed sometimes when I log onto your site and there is no new post – what with the 8 hour difference in time zones:-( Keep blogging, love your honesty – Grace, Johannesburg, SA
Hmmm… I didn’t think this was racist of you because you’re an equal opportunity offender!!! I love you for it!
I think you need to get a ‘fat people who adore fashion, the very industry that villifies them’ obsession.
I would never think to lump people in to stereotype categories based upon visual ‘evidence’. I prefer to do that in person.
I’m a mother of 5, a cosmetic chemist and I studied law [don’t hold that against me. studied, never practised], I’m in my 40s. My older, white, silver fox of a husband has all his hair, I don’t have an SLR, just a point & shoot that I self-click my pics with, I love to travel and prefer to travel business class but shop at opshops and sales out of choice.
I am sick and tired of a world that produces self indulgent musings masquerading as substance.
…I have a blog dedicated to my daily outfits…sigh…
Bag Snob Tina… you rock.
@Dusk – xoxo
@A fan of lifeintravel – before we throw insults let’s examine our own hearts (or at least look in the mirror) and for god’s sake, use a dictionary.
I am really enjoying the brutally honest voice of this blog. Sister Wolf writes and says what many of us are thinking but afraid to speak. I admire that.
Peace.
I was initially so disgusted with the comments in this post (not the post itself-SW, I think your posts are always fantastic) but after reading through the comments, I realized I was just being sensitive because:
I spent a month in china when I was 21, and was repeatedly cornered by various Chinese men who thought I was either a 1. a Russian prostitute or 2. a Russian mail order bride, even though I was born in NYC and have no accent. But if they happened to hear me speak Russian (on the phone, or to a friend whose English wasn’t great), boom, I must be looking for some dude to marry or have sex with for money. I guess the comments kind of gave me a flashback of that and funny as it is to make mail order bride comments, when someone is cornering you alone in your hotel in the elevator, grabbing your arm and asking “how much” it becomes a lot less funny, and you really feel like shit.
So that was besides the point, but just thought I’d share!
Mr. Freddie’s racist mom is ugly. Yes, I’m immature.
CR and Taylor: Yup, the post ¨The Man Has Many Faces¨ was meant to be hilarious because my husband´s a funny guy though he looks serious. hahaha!
SW: I´m your loyal reader and sometimes commenter. Though I married a white guy, I didn´t consider myself a mail-order bride because I had a good paying job as a chemist for more than 12 yrs. before I actually met him. I actually like being a stay at home wife for now and yes, my husband is my bank right now because he´s the one supporting me. haha! We don´t live ostentatiously nor does he buy me expensive things because we´re both practical but we always love to trave around here and I love taking pictures. My camera is a Point-N-Shoot by the way.;)
PS: Sorry for not commenting sooner, we didn´t have internet for a week.
PS: I´ve been following Mom and Son and Life in Travel and trust me, Mom and Son isn´t rich at all. She´s just a simple girl who loves posing for pictures. As for Life in Travel, I envy her closet but she´s down to earth.
Peace! 🙂
Off-topic, but Mr. Freddie’s Mom … 27 my ass. If she’s 27 then I’m fucking ten.
I have a boyfriend who is mostly bald, has a pot belly, and will never make the front page of GQ. I am in my late 40s, he is mid 60s. When we go places together, people stare and sometimes comment. I am good looking, and he is rich, and we were both this way when we met way back then. But I adore that old fart – he treats me like a goddess, he is kind and generous, he pays LOTS of attention to me, and the sex rocks !!! When I met him, I would never have guessed. I genuinely love this man, and he loves me. So maybe some of these Asian ladies also actually love their homely old dudes. I’m proof, it can happen.